Mellany is a first time author, entrepreneur and life enthusiast whose personal mantra is YOU MATTER. You owe it to yourself to fix whatever it is that does not make you whole.
Mellany Paynter’s intimate journey of discovering there is no normal timetable to overcome grieving the loss of her Mom, was the key that allowed her healing process to naturally unfold and her inspiration to write Dancing at The Crossroad.
Through Dancing at The Crossroad, Mellany has created a keepsake for the “bookends of life” and ignited a personal passion to inspire others' healing journey — facing reality and realizing what really matters. Dancing at The Crossroad is her first guided journal book in the series.
Mellany Paynter is currently the CEO of Her Billions, a consulting company that facilitates visual strategies that inspires other women entrepreneurs to boost productivity and efficiency. She holds a Bachelors in Civil Engineering from Howard University and her interests include fusing visual mapping and analytical skills to help others grow professionally and personally. Her main focus is improving quality of life and encouraging women to find balance in every area of life. When she is not facilitating workshops or attending meetings, she is serving as an Advisory Board Member for other small businesses or enjoying life biking. Mellany is a native of Trinidad, currently residing in New York City.
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What is it about death and loss that changes your entire being?
Sometimes in the face of adversity, it’s comforting just to know that there are other people going
through what you are experiencing. Dancing at a crossroad is much easier when you are
amongst others who understand your journey, than by going it alone.
When my mother died, the pain and emptiness I felt in that moment, was like no other I had ever
felt before. Nothing mattered, not my life or anything I owned. Time itself became stagnant. My
existence as I have always known it had changed instantaneously. Strangely, everyone keeps
telling me how strong I am. The truth is I cannot comprehend what they see because, even
though I am smiling on the outside, on the inside I am slowly dying.
Dealing with grief is a head game. You experience things that your mind is not prepared for, and
your body has to try to reconcile what you feel and try to react in a manner that would not add
more shock to your already shocked system. Shock provides an emotional shield from being
overwhelmed all at once, and facing the truth.
Truth also manifests in the nature of your relationship. Whether you were best friends or you
were estranged, the emotional connection that you had while in your mother’s womb can return
suddenly, and you’ll know without a doubt that you love her and that she loves you. As I bear
the pain of losing the one person who cared for me more than anyone else in this world, I
wonder... What is my life’s mission? What real purpose could my life have now?
I have a dream... I am trapped in a burning house... it is my Mom’s house. Somehow though, I
receive a warning about the fire before it starts. As the smoke appears I begin running back and
forth trying to save whatever I could. I suddenly remember my passport but do not know where
to find it. I notice neighbors across the street watching the fire from a distance, nobody
attempting to help. The fire seemed to be contained within the walls only. Then just as suddenly
as it started it just stopped, the walls barely stained. Although I am running around I never felt
scared of being burned. I felt at peace in the midst...safe almost. Then the dream changed
course...my Mom was there ironing an outfit and pleading with me to put it on. I started to argue
with her then realized I was out of line. Mothers know best, right! I wake up.
The scariest moment through all happened today! I returned home, driving down Interstate 75 in
Miami. I was feeling really low and decided I was going to end it all. I was going above the
speed limit and in the distance, slightly to my left I noticed the concrete column that supported
the upcoming ramp. In my mind I was calculating the width; that it was wide enough for a
successful head-on crash that would render no more pain. I remember thinking this would be
swift and easy, nobody would miss me and I would definitely get to see my Mom.
As I remained consumed in my thoughts, I did not realize that the car had indeed started
veering off the road and I was brought back to life in an instant. I panicked and tried steering the
car back into the lane when it started swerving...left...then right...then left again. Fear gripped
me and my life flashed before my eyes in an instant. In another few seconds I was able to get
the car under control but my nerves were a wreck. I pulled over to the side, bent over and
started bawling. I felt every emotion I had been through up until now in that outburst but it
helped me to release what I had inside. It emptied me this evening.
That was the day I decided that I needed to live.
However, I am becoming impatient with the process, with these feelings that come and go
without warning. I am tired of the emotional rollercoaster and unpredictability of my situation. I
just crave normalcy and know I have to trust that in time I would feel normal again and in control
of my responses, but right now it is difficult, so I journal. Join me.
Recall your last moments with your loved one or the moment you experienced your loss. What
were you thinking? How did the events play out?
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Consider how you feel. Write down the experiences that are both pleasurable and painful to you
and relive them in the space below.
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Are you frustrated and angry? Write down 3 specific things that annoy you, then consider one
way you can help yourself heal. List the easiest ways to reroute your anger. For example, sitting
amongst nature, going to the theater or even journaling in quiet of your home.
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Make a list of things that have become extremely important to you in the midst of your transition.
How does each one make you feel?
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You are looking forward to the future. It doesn’t mean that you are over your loss, but you are
processing differently. Make a list of new things that you would like to do to improve your life.
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