A Maternal Mental Health Map for Life After Loss
How one Mama healed her heart while road-schooling her young son over 22,000 miles, across 17 states and through 3 countries, during 2 years of a global pandemic and after the loss of her life partner. This Mama Caravan has hit the road and will have you believing in the magical power of love once more.
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Hi You,
Burt and I packed up our So Cal life over 3 years ago now. So many of you were such a vibrant part of our lives back then. Cee and I miss you. We reminisce about all of the precious moments we shared together - especially in our backyard in Cardiff - often.
As sweet as our life was, back in San Diego County, cancer has a way of illuminating what's not working. As many of you know, I struggled with what I call my "Mother Wound." I was stuck in patterns that I didn't know how to change: like, prioritizing chores and other domestic duties over doing the things that light me up and fill my cup; taking too much on and not knowing how to ask for help & delegate more, and then perpetuating either a martyr or a victim complex; not paying myself for the work I was creating!; and then, blowing it all up out of anger and/or resentment. Back then, I felt overwhelmed at the sheer weight of our little world - even though Burt and I thoroughly enjoyed sharing our life with you.
In many ways - because I didn't know how to change, while living in the place where I was from, where all of these early patterns within me were reinforced - I ran away from So Cal. Yes, we were also escaping to lighten our loads so that Burt could heal from the hell of conventional cancer treatment. Life south of the border offered his body an opportunity to re-balance itself as he had suffered with the cold after losing all of his interstitial fat. Three years ago, Burt and I swam with whale sharks in warm waters where the Gulf of Mexico and the Caribbean Sea meet and it was a dream come true!
My book, The Mama Caravan, highlights all of this - my vulnerably sharing how our collective, and my individual, Mother Wound has affected me my whole life as well as about mine & Burt's journey individually and as a couple. I am really excited to keep him alive in this way and for more people to know the great generosity of Spirit that was Burton J. Lo. Thus, I hope you will continue to support us as you so generously have for many years now.
All the best,
Cara
