How shame ruins our mental health
We're taught shame afflicts wrongdoers, but actually it punishes the innocent, and negatively affects our mental health - which is already in crisis. Shame is tangled up with anxiety and depression, and we need to better understand how we're deceived. The book explains how shame works, tells shame-recovery stories, strives to reverse the injustice - and offers recovery strategies.
Bethany Marshall (Publishizer CEO) has come up with the idea of curating a series of 'coffee with authors' events - and it includes a chat between Emily Goodson, the author of 'Dating Disability' and myself.
Here is the link (where you will also find a link to Emily's book) https://form.jotform.com/242004915601142
We all experience challenges when it comes to the dating/mating scene. Take ‘self-blindness’. We only think we see ourselves and what we’re seeking, but when some people 'find' it, they discover it wasn't what they were looking for after all!
Following a small brain injury aged eight, Emily was forced to confront her shyness in a way that terrified some some of her later dating partners. Most of us are shy meeting new people, but Emily discloses what happens when she 'turned the tables' on some of her dates.
We're living in an age of unprecedented 'openness' about our lives and mental and physical health, yet the nature of online sharing creates greater platforms for shame and masking. Emily’s experiences mirror our own – only more so. Shame deceives us into believing we’re ‘defective’ – small 'imperfections' become huge, and we tend to think our needs are too much for others. We really want to know the truth about the people we meet – but we are desperate to veil ourselves!
I've met Emily a few times, and I think this could be another interesting chat