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Xiaoli Mei

Xiaoli Mei

San Francisco, California

Personally experiencing the struggle to balance professional career with personal relationships, Xiaoli set out to find happiness. Captured in her Happiness Code, she inspires women who share the same struggle.

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Xiaoli Mei is a Certified Life Coach, known as the Happiness In Love Coach for coaching professional Asian women to find true love and to bring balance to a happy relationship with a busy career.

Having been on a quest to live the life of her dreams and share it with her beloved, Xiaoli emigrated to the United States from China in the late 90’s. She successfully established a career in Corporate America working for Fortune 100 companies. However, in spite of her great career, Xiaoli found herself feeling miserable, empty, lonely, confused and sad. Having experienced two failed marriages and other broken relationships, she knew there had to be a way to balance a successful career AND to have a fulfilling relationship.

Undeterred from her past experiences, Xiaoli set out to crack the “Happiness Code” while working two jobs and raising her 2 children as a single mom in San Francisco Bay Area.  She discovered what it takes for Asian career women to find lasting happiness and love in the Western world.

Today Xiaoli lives happily with her life partner and teaches women from all cultural backgrounds on finding their true love. She guides her clients to bring balance to career and love, and helps them attain joy and harmony in their lives without sacrificing one important life aspiration over another.  Xiaoli is loved by her clients. Her coaching style is witty, wise, and highly empowering. She is an inspirational speaker and a natural motivator.

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Conscious Journey to a Lasting Relationship

7 Proven Steps to Find a Lasting Fulfilling Relationship

Helping ambitious career minded women attain a lasting meaningful relationship by triumphing over the pain from the past, and rewrite their love stories. Happily ever after is here!

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This book offers a unique and modern version of “happily ever after” for smart, ambitious, professional women who spent their life achieving success in their career, yet experience stress and an overwhelmingly empty feeling of missing out on a loving relationship.  There are many women who think being independent and successful can bring happiness, but they eventually realize that a successful career does not guarantee a happy relationship.   Love and a successful relationship is a necessary component to achieving full happiness in life.  Being loved and adored, while also giving love, can fill that void.  But achieving success in finding love takes knowledge and understanding.

We were never taught by school or by our parents about the intricacies of love and relationships. We always assumed “happily ever after” came naturally as long as we fell in love and got married.   But we never fully understood what falling in love really meant.  Understanding human nature and the actions necessary to achieve success in relationships are learn-able skills.  But it takes conscious learning and action.  Here is your roadmap to balancing career and love, and achieving success in both.

Been There, Done That:  After college, Xiaoli moved from China to the US to work on her advanced degree.  She reached for and quickly achieved success in her professional career, moving up through the ranks in corporate America.  Yet, her personal life still suffered.  Having personally experienced two failed marriages and other broken relationships, Xiaoli set out on a quest to find happiness in life.  She knew it was possible to achieve happiness in love while maintaining success in a professional career.  But having both seemed quite elusive.  After years of researching, learning, and coaching, Xiaoli cracked the “Happiness Code” and discovered what it takes for Asian professional women to find lasting happiness and love in the Western world while keeping their professional career on track.  Captured in this book are those discoveries.  It will teach you the necessary tools and skills to achieve balance in both your professional career and how to achieve a successful relationship.  Today, Xiaoli lives happily with her soulmate and teach women from all cultural backgrounds on how to find their true love and what it takes to build a loving and lasting relationship.

The message is unique because it combines the story and experiences of both the author and her many clients who have also faced similar struggles.  Each vignette is shared in a very authentic and vulnerable way, all from personal experiences.  Each chapter contains the fundamental learnings and essential skills, personal examples, and practical exercises and tools to help the reader better understand themselves and the dynamics of human interactions necessary for a healthy relationship.

Xiaoli wrote this book because she is passionate about helping women like herself to transform their love life.  She has met many professional women who are suffering and struggling as she did in her attempt in finding love and a happy relationship.  It hurts her to see many of them give up after experiencing broken hearts, knowing that love and happiness are within reach.

There was a point in Xiaoli’s life where she experienced her moment in the dark.  Downtrodden and unhappy, she knew there had to be a way to a happy life.  It was her journey of learning and enlightenment, guided by mentors and coaches, which helped her overcome her self-doubts and frustrations and made her the person she is today.  With joy, peace, and passion, she helps others overcome those roadblocks to happiness.  This book will definitely bring hope and light to those women who are still in the dark, can’t see the light or who are seeking guidance.

This book outlines 7 proven steps to find a lasting fulfilling relationship while maintaining your professional career.  The practical exercises help the reader work through the learning points and experience the necessary steps to take action and achieve success and happiness.

3 Key Takeaways:

·         Understand the roadblocks that prevent people in having the relationship they want

·         Achieving self-love is essential and is the foundation to have a joyful life and fulfilling relationship

·         7 Proven steps to attract true love and build the lasting relationship you desire


Chapter 1: Does happily ever after exist?

Personal stories on how author failed two marriages and embarked a journey to search the answer

Chapter 2: Our childhood: 

how our upbringing influence what type of relationships we end up with, can we breakthrough it?

Chapter 3: Power of beliefs

Beliefs shape our lives, either positive or negative beliefs. Power of Magic of thinking! How do we form our beliefs? and how to release old beliefs that no longer serve us?

Chapter 4:  Divine Femininity

The CEO energy we embody often disconnects us from the juicy feminine power that attracts a loving and committed relationship into our lives

Chapter 5: Self-love        

No one will love you more than you love yourself. What's real meaning of self-love and why it is essential to have a joyful life and lasting relationship

Chapter 6: Dating to experiment

no one likes to date someone who hates dating. How to enjoy 5 stages of dating to a fulfilling commitment

Chapter 7: Modern version of happily ever after

Real clients stories on how they triumphed over their past and find their modern version of happily ever after

Chapter 8: The "Happiness Code" -7 Proven steps to true love

The exclusive formula to Happiness In Love. Discover 7 time proven steps to a lasting relationship 


The primary audience for this book is women, ages 30-70, who are ambitious and successful in their jobs but have challenges about finding love and fulfilling relationship. 

There are 110 million singles in US only, 53% (58 million is women), according to 2017 census statistics in US. 

This book is written for professional women who pursue education, better life, freedom and happiness, who are succeed in career or in business, but struggled in love/relationship department, who had been through breakups/divorces, who can’t find a happy lasting relationship, can’t sustain intimacy or feel empowered in their intimate relationship. They will greatly benefit from this book

Here is what they would relate

#Despite their success in every area of your life, they feel missing out on sharing happiness and joy with someone special

# They want to find a true and lasting love, but think they are too old, too late, not beautiful enough, not slim enough or some other limiting beliefs

#They are smart, successful, independent, but find themselves getting involved with the same type of emotional unavailable partner again and again without commitment

#They've literally been dating for years and have a little hope left that they'll find true love

#They feel overwhelmed or intimidated about meeting people online and confused about the modern online dating world

#They've had bad relationships in the past, and have lost the confidence to trust that they'll make right choice next time

For every women who struggles in relationship and intimacy. They will find solutions and guidance in these pages and a way to reclaim their passion and joy in their life.

A transformational journey through personal stories and illustrate the concepts and universal laws to help women attain joy and juicy romance.


The author already has an established and growing platform with Over 2000 LinkedIn connections, over 1100 FB connections, Meetup followers of 800+ members, 700 plus Instagram followers and an ongoing FB ad campaign which brings in 100 new subscribers each month. The author plans to use FB, LinkedIn, Instagram and Meetup to promote the launch of this campaign. FB groups such as (Love your Life in 30 days, Abundance Unleashed, Online Dating site for Singles, Women's Entrepreneurs, Universal Soul Love, Thriving Women in Business, Facebook Relationship Tips and Counseling, Professional Women of Excellence), all have large followings with active members and fit the audience of this book.

The author is creating a group of book ambassadors, early readers and adopters, who are influencers and will also help to promote the book through their platforms.


1) Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert published by Penguin in 2006. 

Elizabeth Gilbert’s Eat Pray Love touched the world and changed countless lives, inspiring and empowering millions of readers to search for their own best selves. This wise and rapturous book is the story of how she left behind all these outward marks of success, and set out to explore three different aspects of her nature, against the backdrop of three different cultures: pleasure in Italy, devotion in India, and on the Indonesian island of Bali, a balance between worldly enjoyment and divine transcendence.. This book is purely personal story & experience on a quest to marvel at and travel the world while rediscovering and reconnecting with her true inner self but the book didn't get to the root cause what makes people truly happy and find their best self. The Conscious Journey not only showed author's personal journey, but also illustrate the basic principles how to crack the happiness code and have an intimate relationship. 

2) The Queen's Code by Alison Armstrong, published in eBook format in 2013

The long-standing war between the sexes is the stuff of legend. In TV ads, sitcoms and chick flicks everywhere, we've all seen the images - the long suffering woman and the clueless, insensitive man. But what if it's all a misunderstanding? In this fairy tale for the contemporary woman, Kimberlee seeks advice and discovers a treasure chest of esoteric knowledge hidden within her own family. As she unravels the mysteries of men's behavior in this romantic journey, so will you. As she learns the Language of Heroes, and transforms how she relates to men, so will you. Whether you're in love with men or frustrated by them - or both - The Queen's Code creates a new ethic and approach for interacting with men in a way that honors both sexes. From eight distinct points-of-view, you'll get an intimate look inside the hearts and minds of both men and women as we struggle to understand ourselves and each other. This book use fiction story to engage women how to fully understand men at deep level. That is one of the elements in Conscious Journey but illustrated with real life stories and lectures. 

3) The Path to Love: Spiritual Strategies for Healing by Deepak Chpra published by Crown Publishers Inc in 1997

The Path to Love is a remarkable fusion of Eastern wisdom and Western practicality. It's Philosophical, inspiring, and ultimately very practical, The Path to Love is a book that can change lives as it invites the spirit to work its wonders on the most complex and richly rewarding terrain of all: the human heart. This book gives you new strategies for clearing away the obstacles to love in your life, for restoring the boundless soul of love, and for find romance that will last a lifetime. Great book on how to obtain love from spiritual level and transform at our daily life. Book focus on spiritual principles, more towards everyone men and women.  Conscious Journey certainly incorporated some of the principles from the book, but illustrated with less spiritual teaching and more focus on the principles with real life stories to back up. Conscious Journey also provides some tools and practice to enhance those principles. 

4) If the Budda Dated: a handbook for finding love on a spiritual path by Charlotte Kasl, published Penguin in 1999

At once practical, playful, and spiritually sound, this book is about creating a new love story in your life. Drawing from Christian, Buddhist, Sufi and other spiritual traditions, If the Buddha Dated shows how to find a partner without losing yourself. The book offers practical wisdom on using the path to love as a means of awakening. If the Buddha Dated teaches that when you stay loyal to your spiritual journey, you will bring curiosity, fascination, and a light heart to the dating process. A great book about dating. That's one of 7 elements in Conscious Journey with emphasis on practical steps and skills on dating, communication and how to move from dating to committed relationship. 

 5) The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction by Ariellle Ford, published by HarperCollins in 2011

Finding true love is possible for anyone at any age if you are willing to prepare yourself, on all levels, to become a magnet for love. The book show you how to take control of your romantic destiny and teaches you to use the laws of attraction to deliver your soulmate to your doorstep! It’s is a step-by-step guide to finding your own happily ever after. The ancient formula revels that our universe is set up to deliver the people and things into our lives that are consistent with our personal belief system. The book solely focus on how to use law of attraction to attract soulmate, but didn't address how to step into a committed happy relationship once found the soulmate. Conscious Journey addresses two stage of a relationship: strategy to attract/find soulmate and how to stay in a happy lasting fulfilling relationship with fundamental leanings and practical tools

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