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Annette Gates

Annette Gates, MEd is a sexologist, coach, educator and the creator of Natural Sexual Reprogramming® (NSR) Technique. NSR was developed through hundreds of triumphs in her groups and private practice.

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OMG!!!

Your Modern Guide to the Best Sex and Intimacy Life Ever!

Sexuality and relationship struggles top most people’s main reason for not living a joy-filled life. These mind-body practices have helped hundreds gain the sex and intimacy lives of their dreams.

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Sexuality and relationship struggles top most people’s main reason for not living a joy-filled life.  It’s not just struggling couples with families. It’s EVERYONE, single, married, gay, or straight, all gender identities and sexual orientations. Life becomes STRESS-FULL, we shut down in our relationships that used to nurture us. And our sex and intimacy lives suffer.

In OMG! Your Modern Guide to the Best Sex and Intimacy Life Ever! Annette Gates––one of the world's most forward-thinking sexologists––shares her state of the art mind-body technique that has helped hundreds of struggling individuals and couples develop long lasting sex and intimacy practices boosting the bedroom into the rest of life. Natural Sexual Reprogramming (NSR)® Technique helps men, women, and couples gain life changing sex and relationship practices specific to their desires as they heal their past. In just a few sessions NSR breaks through the result barriers traditional therapy only touches. Lives become JOY-FULL.

Unlike traditionally trained sex therapist that focus on talk therapy, Annette took an alternative path grounding her practice in somatic sex coaching. Annette offers practical body-based healing practices gained through helping hundreds of clients overcome sexual functioning concerns. She shares real stories of clients’ struggles to triumph as they lived the life they truly desire.

Her signature coaching programs, special events, and workshops all lead clients into a deeper body-based experience of their sexuality.

Annette reveals an enlightening easy practice bringing you back in contact with your true sexual nature. You'll learn how to create the sex and relationship life of your dreams. 

This book is your guide back into yourself, so you can navigate a relationship with another that stands the test of time. NSR is an alternative approach to talk sex therapy and ways to alleviate sexual functioning concerns that have plagued your relationships. Or perhaps you want to learn a new modern body-based way to learn how to deepen in sex and intimacy with your partner, or just yourself.

This book is NOT another tantra how-to, it’s NOT metaphysical or esoteric. It’s practical and relatable to stories we ALL struggle with in our relationships lives. The technique is grounded in Taoist body-based philosophy practiced for thousands of years and explained for the modern human to understand. It will take your relationship with yourself and others to a whole new level.

NSR® starts with helping you understand what is going on between your ears. Patterned thoughts and past experiences can take over your sexuality and relationship life. Practical exercises guide you into a body-based experience of your sexual arousal for greater awareness of your patterns. Shame-based thoughts and emotional patterns often get in the way of the sexuality and relationships you crave. NSR uses simple breath awareness practices, allowing you to fully harness your sexual energy and clear the negative thoughts and patterns.

After about 5 years into her practice as a sex and relationship coach in SF and NYC she noticed her clients exhausted after sexuality conversations with western trained therapist, doctors, and various practitioners. Natural Sexual Reprogramming® (NSR) Technique is a testament to Annette’s successful work with helping hundreds of clients to overcome sex and relationship issues through re-education, coaching, and healing. Practices, stories, and the NSR technique remind everyone to Love Making Life.

Outline

This book is structured around practical sex and relationship practices that boost the level of solo and partnered lovemaking and the experience of intimacy. There are practical how-to’s based on real client struggles. The how-to’s can also be used to reach a more pleasure and joy in life. There are THREE Sections.

1. Men                         

2. Women                    

3. Couples.

The men and women’s sections focus on how each can help themselves and how a partner help them. The couples section focuses on how couples can work together to create the love life of their dreams. Each section has the sections below:

1.     Waking Up from Shut Down

--Main sexual functioning concerns through client stories 

    --Desire and arousal concerns, erectile issues, ejaculatory         control, orgasm concerns, sexless marriage, fantasies and fetishes, sex/porn addiction.

--How they affect the relationship

--Practices for better feeling of sexual arousal

2.     Understanding the Biggest Private Part: The Brain

--Patterned thoughts and behavior through client stories

   --Desire and arousal concerns, erectile issues, ejaculatory         control, orgasm concerns, sexless marriage, fantasies and fetishes, sex/porn addiction.

--How they affect the relationship

--Practices for clearing shaming or unserving thoughts and patterns

3.     OMG! Breathe!

--Role of breath in integrating the body and mind for full sexual potential and recovery from sexual functioning concerns.

--Spirituality in sex and intimacy and how it can enhance the relationship with self and partner.

--Sex practices for healing that include sound

Audience

This book is for everyone who ever wanted to gain more insight into their sex and intimacy life, privately. Many people shy away from seeking in person help. Also, after tiring traditional resources, they are seeking alternative solutions to their issues. The lack of healthy sex education is prevalent in most countries, as side from, some progressive European countries.

Alternative approaches to sex and relationship concerns are plentiful. The baby boomers are aging, and their relationships are suffering. The millennials are achieving in careers and family, and their relationships suffer. The internet has increased access to alternative sexuality and relationships resources. It’s also saturated the sex market with porn and addiction concerns fueling sexual functioning issues.

·       More than 2 million millennials are becoming parents every year since 2016[i].

·       10,000 baby boomers are turning age 65 every day[ii].

·       Forbes stated, “In 2015, 94% of millennials reported making personal improvement commitments (compared with 84% of Boomers and 81% of Gen Xers). And we’re willing to pay the price: While Boomers said they’d spend an average of $152 a month on self-improvement, millennials anticipated spending nearly twice that—though our average income is half as much.”[iii]

A recent survey of about 9,000 Australians, of whom 73 percent were married, found 54 percent of men and 42 percent of women are unhappy with how often they’re having sex.[iv]

In my experience people seek sex and relationship help directly and pay directly for services. Health insurance does not cover it and coverage is difficult to get approved[v]. Much of the world population is looking for help at some point for sex and relationship issues.

Some singles want to get over their sexual arousal issues on their own with the help of non-medical avenues, books, and alternative practitioners. They are smart enough to know that they can find a coach for anything these days. The coaching industry is a booming billion-dollar industry, and sex and relationship coaching a special niche.

Not everyone is struggling, many are striving for a balanced life of pleasure that includes a great sex and intimacy life.

This book is a guide for creating the time to achieve the sex and intimacy life everyone desires. It gives the retiring baby boomers hope they can recover from functioning issues that come with aging. It gives the millennials sex practices that don’t take up too much time and increase intimacy and overall health. It gives everyone, much needed, healthy, grounded, shame-free sex and relationship education.

[i] http://www.pewresearch.org/fac...

[ii] http://www.pewresearch.org/fac...

[iii] https://www.forbes.com/sites/c...

[iv] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/p...

[v] http://www.apeacefullifecounse...

Author

As a certified somatic sex educator (CSSE) from the Institute for Advanced Studies on Human Sexuality, Annette offers over 10 years of expertise in creating a safe space for talking about sex. A seasoned sexuality educator, Annette holds a master’s in education (MEd), in human sexuality from Widener University. As a healer and certified hypnotherapist (CHT), Annette is a certified Brennan Healing Science Practitioner and uses relational healing and hypnotherapy techniques in her practice. Her signature coaching programs, special events, and workshops are currently available. Annette also offers continuing education units and her own signature university courses on relationships and sexuality. 

Annette has video lectured at the Skin Bones and Private Parts Conference. She was one of four panelists lecturing and facilitating the local 1199SEIU’s Let’s Talk About Sex Symposium for clinicians and counselors in New York City. 

Annette is passionate about helping clients break through barriers toward fulfilling relationships and sexuality. In addition to private coaching sessions, Annette teaches 90-minute classes in Taos, Santa Fe, Albuquerque, & NYC, and on Facebook Live. Her coaching and teaching practice has helped hundreds of struggling individuals and couples, and fuels her passion to offer sexuality teaching to all. Annette reminds everyone to Love Making Life!

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Annette has video lectured at the Skin Bones and Private Parts Conference. She was one of four panelists lecturing and facilitating the local 1199SEIU’s Let’s Talk About Sex Symposium for clinicians and counselors in New York City.  Annette also taught a Human Sexuality Psych class at Santa Fe Communtiy College in the Fall of 2017 and is positioned to teach more university courses.

Annette Gates has written:

Your Patient: A Sexuality Education Curriculum for Practitioners

A Case for Masturbation: An Alternative Approach to Teaching About Sexual Pleasure

Pleasure In the Classroom: Teaching The Human Sexual Response Cycle, Sexual Communication, and Satisfaction

NSR Starter Practice, Prostate Health, Healing Partners, and Slow Love Making Practices Available here:

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/0BxG0Ye80NtR6SzQ0WnNwSU8zeE0?usp=sharing

The NSR Practice Program for Men is available for purchase on her website first part is sampled in this proposal http://annettegates.com/natural-erectile-dysfunction-treatment/

The NSR Practice Program for Ladies and their Lovers will be available in Early 2019.

She has lead over 200 classes on Sex and Relationships using her technique. http://annettegates.com/relati...

Competition

OMG! Your Modern Guide to the Best Sex and Intimacy Life Ever! Offers more somatic (body-based) clear practical techniques to gain the level of orgasm and arousal and intimacy than any of the books on the market. This is because Annette Gates is a cutting edge somatic sex coach. I’ve gone into EVERY session with the focus of client questions geared

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life Mar 3, 2015 by Emily Nagoski Ph.D.

An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.

The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Because women vary, and that’s normal.

Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm.

OMG!!! Is complementary because it includes men and couples. It also offers practical how-to’s for men, women, and couples. Emily’s book offers some excellent practices and discovery tools for women to discover their full sexual potential. This book also offers client stories, of woman and struggles with arousal. I would ask Emily to review my book and perhaps write a foreword. I would be very curious as to what she thinks about the mind and thoughts weaving into the arousal experience of my technique as it relates to men and couples.

Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century Nov 21, 2017 by Barbara Carrellas and Annie Sprinkle

If you think sexual and spiritual bliss can't be found in today's fast-paced world, you haven't experienced Urban Tantra. Celebrating the 10th anniversary of Urban Tantra, acclaimed sex educator Barbara Carrellas radically updates the ancient practice of Tantra for modern sexual explorers desiring to discover new frontiers. With a juicy mix of erotic how-to and heart-centered spiritual wisdom, this updated edition includes a brand-new introduction, up-to-date references and resources, a new take on the possibilities and responsibilities of Tantra in today’s world, plus new and cutting-edge information to reach an expanded community—added information on multi-partner play, more intersections for Tantra and BDSM, practices for asexuals and aromantics, expanded practices for trans and gender nonconforming people, and more. 

With more than one hundred easy-to-follow techniques for expanded orgasmic states and solo and partner play (as well as more adventurous practices), this in-depth guide reveals the delicious worlds of ecstasy available to all, no matter one's gender, sexual preference, or erotic tastes. Urban Tantra expands the notions of pleasure and opens new heights of intimacy and sexual fulfillment.

OMG!!! Is in competition as an alternative sex guide to urban tantra. It offers practical how-to’s for men, women, and couples to overcome common sexual functioning issues and intimacy patterns in relationship. Urban Tantra does not include real life client triumphs. Urban tantra is based on more metaphysical principles and yet is still body-based with practical tools for success. It might turn off people that do not feel they can fathom getting to ‘new heights’ when they are in a sexless marriage or simply can’t even feel desire or arousal.

Tantric Sex: Step-by-Step Guide To Learning The Art of Tantric Sex! Jan 8, 2017 by Grace Mason and Jim Owens

Tantric sex is so much more than simply establishing a physical bond between two partners. It is about connecting with your partner on an emotional and a spiritual level. It is the union of the female and the male energies present in the body, for forming a spiritual connection. Tantric sex will help in revitalizing your body, mind, and soul. Tantra can be practiced in different forms and Tantric sex is one of those forms that will help in awakening the dormant sexual energy present in your body for helping you attain greater pleasure. Tantric sex will help in turning up the heat between the sheets and add a new dimension to your sex life.

OMG!!!  Is in competition as an alternative sex guide to this tantra book. It offers practical how-to’s for men, women, and couples to overcome common sexual functioning issues and intimacy patterns in relationship. This tantra book does not include real life client triumphs. This tantra book is based on more metaphysical principles and yet is still body-based with practical tools for success. It might turn off people that do not feel they can grasp tantra when they are in a sexless marriage or simply can’t even feel desire or arousal.

Great Sex: A Man's Guide to the Secret Principles of Total-Body Sex Mar 2004 by Michael Castleman

Castleman's message is surprisingly simple: Stop imitating the rushed, all-genital sex you see in pornography. Instead, cultivate the opposite: leisurely, playful, total-body, massage-based lovemaking that includes the genitals, of course, but is not focused on them.

Sex inspired by pornography is a major reason why men think their penises are too small and why they have erection and ejaculatory problems. With wit, wisdom, and down-to-earth sympathy for men, Castleman discusses his own penis--like yours, it's a little too small--and his own struggles with balky erections, rapid ejaculation, and not expressing orgasm at all. Then, based on state-of-the-art sex therapy techniques, leading sexology texts, and almost 400 medical journal articles, he reveals how to overcome these issues and enjoy a satisfying and exciting sex life.

OMG!!! Is in competition as an alternative sex guide for men. It offers practical how-to’s for men, women, and couples to overcome common sexual functioning issues and intimacy patterns in relationship. This book is written for men to read. OMG!!! Is for all.

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: (And You Thought Bad Girls Have All the Fun) Mar 4, 2012 by Sheila Wray Gregoire

Billions of people have had sex. Far fewer have made love. In the Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex, author Sheila Wray Gregoire helps women see how sexual intimacy was designed to be physically stupendous but also incredibly intimate. 

OMG!!! Is in competition as an alternative sex guide for women. It offers practical how-to’s for men, women, and couples to overcome common sexual functioning issues and intimacy patterns in relationship. This book is written for women to read who have a faith in GOD. OMG!!! Is for all and not related to metaphysical or spiritual dogma.

Books From the Masters:

·       Multi-Orgasmic Couple, Man, Woman by Mantak Chia

·       Sexual Reflexology (Sexercises Chapter) by Mantak Chia

·       Art of Sexual Ecstasy by Margot Anand

Tantra argument is same as others. With Mantak Chia’s works, he is teaching an energy system and the use of it. Much of his work is focused on men, he also does not have client stories. Also, he is a more esoteric and spiritual in his teachings and less practical with the how to’s. Though his Taoist based principles and practices are where my technique are centered from. I recommend Chia’s books to all my clients.

Sample

SEX RE-­EDUCATION

The key to developing stronger sexual potential is gaining greater awareness of your entire pelvic-genital region. The SLOW Mouth Breath is the gateway to awaken greater physical sensations and to understand the body’s innate capacity for sexual functioning. With this breath you will learn how to track your arousal and orgasmic physical sensations (refer to Breathing Diagram PDF 1.1). The result of this mind-body awareness practice is greater control of your sexual functioning. You will develop the training for using the SLOW Mouth Breath throughout your day in all your activities. It will help you whenever you feel that nervousness with performance anxiety. The situations you anticipate will start to melt away as you gain more relaxation in this sensitive part of your body.

Sex and intimacy are very sensitive topics  and  the  education we receive is often basic, if at all. We certainly don’t learn about our breath and body awareness linked to orgasm and arousal patterns, nor how to navigate emotions. Many men get into sexual patterns from early childhood starting with shame-based masturbation patterns, which typically include rushing before getting caught; masturbating in the shower fearing other family members may interrupt; and using forbidden pornography. Furthermore, first sexual experiences of overwhelming excitement or physical sensations can manifest in less ejaculatory control, hypersensitivity, or erection problems. Sexual functioning issues often develop after infrequent or hurried sex due to life stressors such as children, infidelity, deaths, moves, job change, and marital strife. Men can feel orgasmic sensations throughout the body by developing mind body awareness of their entire pelvic-genital region. Allowing feelings of arousal through your NSR practice spreads the

sensation throughout the entire area. By taking the focus off the penis, these practices decrease hypersensitivity and erection issues and offer greater ejaculatory control; therefore, eliminating the need for antiquated 'squeeze' or 'stop-start' techniques.

In many cases, allowing arousal sensations to the anus, prostate and perineum areas  can  increase erections. The anus and prostate areas are an important focus for the arousal and ejaculatory cycle, using breath and awareness. Your prostate gland is located between  the  bladder and rectum, and it can be felt about two inches inside the rectum. The pituitary gland is located inside the center of your head behind the eyes and nose. These two glands are very important to the production of hormones and circulation for arousal and ejaculation, along with allowing testosterone to build which increases the blood flow and opening nerve connections for making stronger ERECTIONS (refer to Ejaculatory Cycle Diagram PDF 1.1). Prostate massage  is very helpful in gaining greater awareness of sexual potential. Please refer to Prostate Health NSR Practice (page 5 in this document) for instructions on how to incorporate prostate massage into your masturbation practice.

★ Important Note: If you suffer from chronic and recurrent pain or discomfort in your pelvic­genital region, it is imperative to consult a doctor for appropriate testing. Doctors may be able to refer you to physical therapists that specialize in pelvic pain and associated sexual functioning issues. Men should get their prostate gland checked as a regular practice for maintaining physical and sexual health.

THE PRACTICE

For Your Self­Lovemaking Practice

Use the professionally 15-minute guided audio mp3 recording Audio1.0 or listen to music that stimulates you. If you don’t have a  problem with overuse of visual stimulation (porn), use what you like. If some porn speaks to certain  fantasies, arousals, or thoughts that you usually shut  down or don’t allow – then use that visual aid. WHATEVER YOU CHOOSE, DO THIS PRACTICE SLOWLY!!!!!!!!!!!! FOR AT LEAST 7-10 MINUTES. SLOW is the key to this part of the practice. You are cultivating space internally for your sexual energy to open nerve pathways that will transform your sex life. Initially, avoid direct penis stimulation too soon by simply holding the penis (the second holding position shown in video 1.1) while doing the breath practice. Read through these instructions and use the professionally guided mp3 audio recording 1.0.

Get comfortable either lying down or sitting up on couch/chair. Use lubricant or oil1, and try different patterns – if you normally use one, try the other, or try nothing for a while. Be sure to watch the Holding Positions video and use them in this breath practice. Roll up a medium-size towel and place between the legs lying down to provide contact with the perineum area (refer to Holding Positions Video 1.1). You can also do this sitting down by placing towel in same way between legs, making contact with the perineum.

Tips for Erection Strength (ed2)

Start out by sitting comfortably  rather than lying down. Use oil or lube while allowing direct  penis stimulation and outside visual stimulation. If taking  performance  enhancement medication, herbs, or supplements regularly – take less. Try a cock ring at the base of the penis. Tips for Ejaculatory Control (pe)3

Avoid immediate and over stimulation of the penis. Allow erections while practicing SLOW breath. Try slow downward strokes of the penis and side-to-side movements.

Basic Steps

●     Open jaw slightly. Resting tongue between the lower lip and teeth creates the desired opening in your jaw. Feel free to let the tongue go after opening is created.

●     Inhale SLOWLY into your belly and pelvis. Imagine the belly is filling up like a balloon pushing stomach muscles out and bearing down on the pelvic floor. (Imagine you are pushing slightly for a bowel movement).

●     Exhale SLOWLY and relax. Allow the belly to help expel the breath by allowing the stomach muscles to gently fold in, relaxing the pelvic floor, no pushing. Opening your jaw slightly allows sound out.

Note: Inhales and exhales last 3-5 seconds each.

Additional Steps

●     Allow the hips to open more than normal by opening the legs in a slight butterfly position. Place your hands on your hips, which is the first holding position.

●     Breathe slow into the hips, allowing the belly to fill up on the inhales... and let go… relaxing on the exhales. Notice areas that feel a little tighter or constricted, and breathe into that area. Notice areas that feel more spacious or relaxed.

●     Inhale SLOWLY through your mouth all the way down to your sitting bone/anus, bearing down slightly as you inhale. On the way down imagine that you are making contact with the prostate gland, located two inches inside the anus.

●     Exhale SLOWLY dropping your shoulders/posture, head, neck, and jaw. As you exhale, move into the towel at your perineum and rock your pelvis back-and-forth (refer to Holding Positions Video 1.1).

●     Upon exhaling, let go of the thoughts and beliefs around your sexual arousal and life happenings. Visualize you are literally opening up nerve pathways. Imagine you are awakening a thrust of sexual arousal and more space for the sensations.

●     Try the side holding positions (refer to video 1.1): Turn to one side, place pillow between knees, and under head. Place the thumb and forefinger part of hand in groin crease, breathing into the hand. Stay here for a few breaths and if arousal is present allow some penis stimulation, especially for ed2. Switch sides if you like this position.

●     Allow slow stimulation of the penis as you are breathing into the anus, perineum, hips,   and belly. Trace the ejaculatory cycle from the anus/prostate, perineum, testes, and up through the penis (refer to PDF 1.1).

Final Tips

Enjoy  the  relaxation,  connection  to  sensations,  and  space  in  the  pelvis  as  you provide SLOW

direct  penis  stimulation.  Develop  a  sensate  focus4    of  your  experience  as you are learning  this

breath. Notice what you are feeling in your body. Use lubricant, vary speed and movement in different directions – up/down, side-to-side, and circle head of the penis. Allow your thoughts (especially the sexual ones); focus on the sensations you are feeling in your body. Embrace new pleasure and sensation. Be curious about connecting your breath to your pelvis and anus to increase awareness and sensate focus. Open your jaw, move  your neck side-to-side, and open  your throat by allowing sound. Notice your arousal and orgasm pattern, especially when you are holding your breath or tightening certain muscles.

Practice Challenge

Practice only this SLOW Mouth Breath for one week everyday before moving on to actively practicing the other two breaths. Allow the slow contact you are developing with your  body, breath, and genitals to represent the slow connection you can make with your partner when you engage with him/her. If you are in a partner lovemaking practice, SLOW down your movements and breath. Apply this same SLOW Mouth Breath practice as you give and receive pleasure from your partner. Let go of performance, erection strength, and ejaculatory control.


PROSTATE HEALTH NSR PRACTICE

Prostate health is very important! This practice is great for solo or partnered lovemaking. It can be done to increase your own body awareness, slow down or increase your arousal, and increase blood flow. With a partner, you can try something new and practice your intimate sexual communication skills. Most of all, have fun and remember to Love Making Life™

The prostate gland is more likely to remain healthy and un-diseased if there is sufficient, regular 

blood flow to the area. Massaging ( refer to links at bottom of this page for massager recommendations) the prostate stimulates it and flushes fluids out,  thus  increasing  the  blood flow and more enjoyable sex . Wash your prostate massager with mild, soapy water before and after each use. If you wish, you can wash your rectum with warm water also. Add     a generous amount of lubricant to the anal area and to the prostate massager. Slowly insert the massager while lying on your side. The massager should enter the anus about 2/3 of the distance from the opening, with the handle between the buttocks. Remember to relax  for  about  20  minutes when learning how to use a prostate massager. Keep your body still and get accustomed    to the device in your rectum. Allow your own body to pull the device inside the remainder of the way. Once fully inserted, position your massager so that the perineum  abutment  is  nestled  against the perineum acupressure point. As you are learning how to use a prostate massager,     refer to the guide handle to ensure it is inserted correctly. Once in position, the prostate and perineum acupressure point can be pleasured by the prostate massager.

For more enjoyable sex:

Relax and enjoy learning how to use a prostate massager. A basic technique for different male orgasmic sensation is bringing yourself close to ejaculation and then stimulating only the prostate so you get a prostate orgasm. If you feel that you have a  handle on that technique, keep the  prostate orgasm rolling as long as you possibly can, without needing to stop. The male body is basically programmed to be unable to keep having sex after ejaculation – not with this orgasm!   You could try having intercourse with a butt plug and use the grasping of the plug to strengthen your erections, especially while practicing the NSR Charging Breath. The Charging Breath can be found in PDF 2.0 of the complete NSR Practice Program or watch the charging breath on this 7-minute video.

bit.ly/NSR7min

It can be enjoyable for women also:

This skill takes care and intimate communication with your partner. CLEAN and insert the prostate massager with the same care as above and include clit, finger or

penis  stimulation/insertion  fully  inside  or  partly  inside  the  vagina  a  few  inches   if comfortable  for  her.   The   pressure  and  stimulation   can   be   very pleasurable for her.   Once she has one orgasm, slow the stimulation down or take finger/penis out and allow  another  to build. Encourage her  to  breathe.  Add  a  generous  amount  of  lubricant  to  the  anal  area and to the prostate massager.

Here are some links to prostate massager/butt plug/anal bead suggestions for on-line ordering. Or visit your local sex store and check out your options in person to get staff recommendations. The following two prostate massagers are the most  popular:  First one with vibration; Second one, no vibe and is a butt plug. Another pleasurable option is to use anal beads.

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  • Shara Morales on Aug. 9, 2018, 4:48 p.m.

    Annette is a very talented professional that supports people in one of the most vulnerable aspects of life -our sexuality-. She is fully present, has tremendous experience, is very precise in her observations and ultra practical in her approach. A true gift for humanity!

  • Karl Konefal on Aug. 10, 2018, 3:58 a.m.

    You rule! Congrats! Happy for you getting your message out.

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