Synopsis

Sexuality and relationship struggles top most people’s main reason for not living a joy-filled life.  It’s not just struggling couples with families. It’s EVERYONE, single, married, gay, or straight, all gender identities and sexual orientations. Life becomes STRESS-FULL, we shut down in our relationships that used to nurture us. And our sex and intimacy lives suffer.

In OMG! Your Modern Guide to the Best Sex and Intimacy Life Ever! Annette Gates––one of the world's most forward-thinking sexologists––shares her state of the art mind-body technique that has helped hundreds of struggling individuals and couples develop long lasting sex and intimacy practices boosting the bedroom into the rest of life. Natural Sexual Reprogramming (NSR)® Technique helps men, women, and couples gain life changing sex and relationship practices specific to their desires as they heal their past. In just a few sessions NSR breaks through the result barriers traditional therapy only touches. Lives become JOY-FULL.

Unlike traditionally trained sex therapist that focus on talk therapy, Annette took an alternative path grounding her practice in somatic sex coaching. Annette offers practical body-based healing practices gained through helping hundreds of clients overcome sexual functioning concerns. She shares real stories of clients’ struggles to triumph as they lived the life they truly desire.

Her signature coaching programs, special events, and workshops all lead clients into a deeper body-based experience of their sexuality.

Annette reveals an enlightening easy practice bringing you back in contact with your true sexual nature. You'll learn how to create the sex and relationship life of your dreams. 

This book is your guide back into yourself, so you can navigate a relationship with another that stands the test of time. NSR is an alternative approach to talk sex therapy and ways to alleviate sexual functioning concerns that have plagued your relationships. Or perhaps you want to learn a new modern body-based way to learn how to deepen in sex and intimacy with your partner, or just yourself.

This book is NOT another tantra how-to, it’s NOT metaphysical or esoteric. It’s practical and relatable to stories we ALL struggle with in our relationships lives. The technique is grounded in Taoist body-based philosophy practiced for thousands of years and explained for the modern human to understand. It will take your relationship with yourself and others to a whole new level.

NSR® starts with helping you understand what is going on between your ears. Patterned thoughts and past experiences can take over your sexuality and relationship life. Practical exercises guide you into a body-based experience of your sexual arousal for greater awareness of your patterns. Shame-based thoughts and emotional patterns often get in the way of the sexuality and relationships you crave. NSR uses simple breath awareness practices, allowing you to fully harness your sexual energy and clear the negative thoughts and patterns.

After about 5 years into her practice as a sex and relationship coach in SF and NYC she noticed her clients exhausted after sexuality conversations with western trained therapist, doctors, and various practitioners. Natural Sexual Reprogramming® (NSR) Technique is a testament to Annette’s successful work with helping hundreds of clients to overcome sex and relationship issues through re-education, coaching, and healing. Practices, stories, and the NSR technique remind everyone to Love Making Life.

Outline

This book is structured around practical sex and relationship practices that boost the level of solo and partnered lovemaking and the experience of intimacy. There are practical how-to’s based on real client struggles. The how-to’s can also be used to reach a more pleasure and joy in life. There are THREE Sections.

1. Men                         

2. Women                    

3. Couples.

The men and women’s sections focus on how each can help themselves and how a partner help them. The couples section focuses on how couples can work together to create the love life of their dreams. Each section has the sections below:

1.     Waking Up from Shut Down

--Main sexual functioning concerns through client stories 

    --Desire and arousal concerns, erectile issues, ejaculatory         control, orgasm concerns, sexless marriage, fantasies and fetishes, sex/porn addiction.

--How they affect the relationship

--Practices for better feeling of sexual arousal

2.     Understanding the Biggest Private Part: The Brain

--Patterned thoughts and behavior through client stories

   --Desire and arousal concerns, erectile issues, ejaculatory         control, orgasm concerns, sexless marriage, fantasies and fetishes, sex/porn addiction.

--How they affect the relationship

--Practices for clearing shaming or unserving thoughts and patterns

3.     OMG! Breathe!

--Role of breath in integrating the body and mind for full sexual potential and recovery from sexual functioning concerns.

--Spirituality in sex and intimacy and how it can enhance the relationship with self and partner.

--Sex practices for healing that include sound

Audience

This book is for everyone who ever wanted to gain more insight into their sex and intimacy life, privately. Many people shy away from seeking in person help. Also, after tiring traditional resources, they are seeking alternative solutions to their issues. The lack of healthy sex education is prevalent in most countries, as side from, some progressive European countries.

Alternative approaches to sex and relationship concerns are plentiful. The baby boomers are aging, and their relationships are suffering. The millennials are achieving in careers and family, and their relationships suffer. The internet has increased access to alternative sexuality and relationships resources. It’s also saturated the sex market with porn and addiction concerns fueling sexual functioning issues.

·       More than 2 million millennials are becoming parents every year since 2016[i].

·       10,000 baby boomers are turning age 65 every day[ii].

·       Forbes stated, “In 2015, 94% of millennials reported making personal improvement commitments (compared with 84% of Boomers and 81% of Gen Xers). And we’re willing to pay the price: While Boomers said they’d spend an average of $152 a month on self-improvement, millennials anticipated spending nearly twice that—though our average income is half as much.”[iii]

A recent survey of about 9,000 Australians, of whom 73 percent were married, found 54 percent of men and 42 percent of women are unhappy with how often they’re having sex.[iv]

In my experience people seek sex and relationship help directly and pay directly for services. Health insurance does not cover it and coverage is difficult to get approved[v]. Much of the world population is looking for help at some point for sex and relationship issues.

Some singles want to get over their sexual arousal issues on their own with the help of non-medical avenues, books, and alternative practitioners. They are smart enough to know that they can find a coach for anything these days. The coaching industry is a booming billion-dollar industry, and sex and relationship coaching a special niche.

Not everyone is struggling, many are striving for a balanced life of pleasure that includes a great sex and intimacy life.

This book is a guide for creating the time to achieve the sex and intimacy life everyone desires. It gives the retiring baby boomers hope they can recover from functioning issues that come with aging. It gives the millennials sex practices that don’t take up too much time and increase intimacy and overall health. It gives everyone, much needed, healthy, grounded, shame-free sex and relationship education.

[i] http://www.pewresearch.org/fac...

[ii] http://www.pewresearch.org/fac...

[iii] https://www.forbes.com/sites/c...

[iv] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/p...

[v] http://www.apeacefullifecounse...

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Annette has taught over 200 classes since 2009

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Annette has video lectured at the Skin Bones and Private Parts Conference. She was one of four panelists lecturing and facilitating the local 1199SEIU’s Let’s Talk About Sex Symposium for clinicians and counselors in New York City.  Annette also taught a Human Sexuality Psych class at Santa Fe Communtiy College in the Fall of 2017 and is positioned to teach more university courses.

Annette Gates has written:

Your Patient: A Sexuality Education Curriculum for Practitioners

A Case for Masturbation: An Alternative Approach to Teaching About Sexual Pleasure

Pleasure In the Classroom: Teaching The Human Sexual Response Cycle, Sexual Communication, and Satisfaction

NSR Starter Practice, Prostate Health, Healing Partners, and Slow Love Making Practices Available here:

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/0BxG0Ye80NtR6SzQ0WnNwSU8zeE0?usp=sharing

The NSR Practice Program for Men is available for purchase on her website first part is sampled in this proposal http://annettegates.com/natural-erectile-dysfunction-treatment/

The NSR Practice Program for Ladies and their Lovers will be available in Early 2019.

She has lead over 200 classes on Sex and Relationships using her technique. http://annettegates.com/relati...

Competition

OMG! Your Modern Guide to the Best Sex and Intimacy Life Ever! Offers more somatic (body-based) clear practical techniques to gain the level of orgasm and arousal and intimacy than any of the books on the market. This is because Annette Gates is a cutting edge somatic sex coach. I’ve gone into EVERY session with the focus of client questions geared

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life Mar 3, 2015 by Emily Nagoski Ph.D.

An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.

The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Because women vary, and that’s normal.

Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm.

OMG!!! Is complementary because it includes men and couples. It also offers practical how-to’s for men, women, and couples. Emily’s book offers some excellent practices and discovery tools for women to discover their full sexual potential. This book also offers client stories, of woman and struggles with arousal. I would ask Emily to review my book and perhaps write a foreword. I would be very curious as to what she thinks about the mind and thoughts weaving into the arousal experience of my technique as it relates to men and couples.

Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century Nov 21, 2017 by Barbara Carrellas and Annie Sprinkle

If you think sexual and spiritual bliss can't be found in today's fast-paced world, you haven't experienced Urban Tantra. Celebrating the 10th anniversary of Urban Tantra, acclaimed sex educator Barbara Carrellas radically updates the ancient practice of Tantra for modern sexual explorers desiring to discover new frontiers. With a juicy mix of erotic how-to and heart-centered spiritual wisdom, this updated edition includes a brand-new introduction, up-to-date references and resources, a new take on the possibilities and responsibilities of Tantra in today’s world, plus new and cutting-edge information to reach an expanded community—added information on multi-partner play, more intersections for Tantra and BDSM, practices for asexuals and aromantics, expanded practices for trans and gender nonconforming people, and more. 

With more than one hundred easy-to-follow techniques for expanded orgasmic states and solo and partner play (as well as more adventurous practices), this in-depth guide reveals the delicious worlds of ecstasy available to all, no matter one's gender, sexual preference, or erotic tastes. Urban Tantra expands the notions of pleasure and opens new heights of intimacy and sexual fulfillment.

OMG!!! Is in competition as an alternative sex guide to urban tantra. It offers practical how-to’s for men, women, and couples to overcome common sexual functioning issues and intimacy patterns in relationship. Urban Tantra does not include real life client triumphs. Urban tantra is based on more metaphysical principles and yet is still body-based with practical tools for success. It might turn off people that do not feel they can fathom getting to ‘new heights’ when they are in a sexless marriage or simply can’t even feel desire or arousal.

Tantric Sex: Step-by-Step Guide To Learning The Art of Tantric Sex! Jan 8, 2017 by Grace Mason and Jim Owens

Tantric sex is so much more than simply establishing a physical bond between two partners. It is about connecting with your partner on an emotional and a spiritual level. It is the union of the female and the male energies present in the body, for forming a spiritual connection. Tantric sex will help in revitalizing your body, mind, and soul. Tantra can be practiced in different forms and Tantric sex is one of those forms that will help in awakening the dormant sexual energy present in your body for helping you attain greater pleasure. Tantric sex will help in turning up the heat between the sheets and add a new dimension to your sex life.

OMG!!!  Is in competition as an alternative sex guide to this tantra book. It offers practical how-to’s for men, women, and couples to overcome common sexual functioning issues and intimacy patterns in relationship. This tantra book does not include real life client triumphs. This tantra book is based on more metaphysical principles and yet is still body-based with practical tools for success. It might turn off people that do not feel they can grasp tantra when they are in a sexless marriage or simply can’t even feel desire or arousal.

Great Sex: A Man's Guide to the Secret Principles of Total-Body Sex Mar 2004 by Michael Castleman

Castleman's message is surprisingly simple: Stop imitating the rushed, all-genital sex you see in pornography. Instead, cultivate the opposite: leisurely, playful, total-body, massage-based lovemaking that includes the genitals, of course, but is not focused on them.

Sex inspired by pornography is a major reason why men think their penises are too small and why they have erection and ejaculatory problems. With wit, wisdom, and down-to-earth sympathy for men, Castleman discusses his own penis--like yours, it's a little too small--and his own struggles with balky erections, rapid ejaculation, and not expressing orgasm at all. Then, based on state-of-the-art sex therapy techniques, leading sexology texts, and almost 400 medical journal articles, he reveals how to overcome these issues and enjoy a satisfying and exciting sex life.

OMG!!! Is in competition as an alternative sex guide for men. It offers practical how-to’s for men, women, and couples to overcome common sexual functioning issues and intimacy patterns in relationship. This book is written for men to read. OMG!!! Is for all.

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: (And You Thought Bad Girls Have All the Fun) Mar 4, 2012 by Sheila Wray Gregoire

Billions of people have had sex. Far fewer have made love. In the Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex, author Sheila Wray Gregoire helps women see how sexual intimacy was designed to be physically stupendous but also incredibly intimate. 

OMG!!! Is in competition as an alternative sex guide for women. It offers practical how-to’s for men, women, and couples to overcome common sexual functioning issues and intimacy patterns in relationship. This book is written for women to read who have a faith in GOD. OMG!!! Is for all and not related to metaphysical or spiritual dogma.

Books From the Masters:

·       Multi-Orgasmic Couple, Man, Woman by Mantak Chia

·       Sexual Reflexology (Sexercises Chapter) by Mantak Chia

·       Art of Sexual Ecstasy by Margot Anand

Tantra argument is same as others. With Mantak Chia’s works, he is teaching an energy system and the use of it. Much of his work is focused on men, he also does not have client stories. Also, he is a more esoteric and spiritual in his teachings and less practical with the how to’s. Though his Taoist based principles and practices are where my technique are centered from. I recommend Chia’s books to all my clients.