I live in Hervey Bay, a beautiful, quiet seaside city in southeast Queensland. My family and I shifted here from Palmerston North, New Zealand after major events disrupted our life. We'd never been to Brisbane City, let alone regional Queensland. What was I thinking? 13 years later our children have left home while we still live in the eternal SE Qld, sunshine. After recovering from our earlier disruption, I wrote a book explaining an approach to life that brings instant CALM.
The ego is like walking. It is a habit learned unconsciously. In childhood, we choose our egos relative value by interpreting feedback. Easily achieve calm by consciously changing this value.