Synopsis

The vast majority of Christian men are living in quiet desperation. We may be consumed by feelings of self-doubt, hopelessness, and despair, even though we profess our Christian faith and Jesus as our Savior. We battle with the religious conditioning we grew up with that tells us as long as we look, perform, and act a certain way we are good Christian men.

The strong desire for comfort and security runs rampant among Christian men. And in doing so, we try to be what the world thinks we should be: rich and powerful while climbing the corporate ladder. We end up sacrificing who God created us to be living in a constant state of smoldering discontent. We shortchange ourselves and the world because we make choices based on what we think will make others happy rather than pursuing our God-given purpose and following divine inspiration.

Until we start to see ourselves the way God sees us we will continue to live in quiet desperation living a life of self-doubt shrinking back and playing small. And until we believe in ourselves enough to start to take chances in our lives, we will continue to live a life of apathy and soul-crushing complacency.

Men and Christian men are suffering from loneliness and isolation like never before, and suicide is on the rise. According to the Suicide Prevention Resource Center between the years 2009 and 2018 suicide rates among adults between the ages of 25 and 44 have surpassed the suicide rates of older adults (65+)

The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention statistics revealed in 2018, men died by suicide 3.56X more than women. White males accounted for 70% of suicide deaths in 2018. The faith community I belong to has put to rest ten people due to suicide since the pandemic started. This is a heartbreaking reality.

In the Spiritual Warrior Training Handbook, I share in methodical detail how we can start to create environments where men can be courageously vulnerable. Because until men have a place where we can share our hearts, our dreams, our brokenness, our failures, our victories, and who we truly are, we will continue to feel the wrath of unhealthy masculinity.

Key Takeaways:

· You will learn how to stand in your own power with humility as the king of your life.
· You will learn how to overcome the need to explain, defend, and prove yourself by accepting your humanity and the humanity of others.
· You will learn how to get ego and pride out of the way and allow God to flow through you.
· You will learn how to be yourself in the world following your inspiration.
· You will learn how to be healed from codependency, shame and guilt, sadness, and beating yourself up.
· You will learn how to lead your life forward by being happy through divine inspiration.

This book is about helping men show up in our power, seeing ourselves the way God sees us, taking chances on ourselves, and being courageously vulnerable. It is a calling for a revolutionary change of what it means to be a Christian man in today’s world.

I was raised in a Christian home, as a rebellious PK (pastor’s kid). Until a devastating divorce brought me to my knees about ten years ago, I battled codependency, neediness, and insecurity on many levels never thinking I was good enough. The symptoms of all of this resulted in exercise addiction, love and relationship addiction, perfectionism, and ultimately self-esteem that was about as fragile as a sandcastle made during high tide. I was desperate for someone to tell me I was a good man, and I went looking for it in all the wrong places.

Over the past ten years since my divorce, I have left the comfort and security of a six figure job in the pharmaceutical industry to start my own men’s spiritual warrior coaching and fitness ministry. It’s a faith adventure I never could have imagined. If someone would have told me I would be in ministry ten years ago I would have said they were absolutely crazy.

Through my experiences, I will guide you through the process that I went through and am still going through to become a spiritual warrior. I believe Jesus is the ultimate spiritual warrior, who has guided me on the path of getting out of quiet desperation and leading me each and every day towards divine inspiration.

Outline:

Introduction- My Story
Chapter 1- The Battle with Self-Doubt
Chapter 2- Stop Proving, Performing & Posturing
Chapter 3- Why Believing in God isn’t Enough
Chapter 4- Overcoming Religious Conditioning
Chapter 5- Seeing Ourselves the Way God Sees Us
Part Two- Going from Playing it Safe to Taking a Chance on Ourselves
Chapter 6- The Battle with Playing it Safe
Chapter 7- Follow Our Inspiration
Chapter 8- Living in the Tension of Exciting and Terrifying
Chapter 9- Reclaim Our Inner Athlete
Chapter 10- Take a Chance on Ourselves
Part Three- Going from Quiet Desperation to Living a Life of Divine Inspiration
Chapter 11- The Battle with Quiet Desperation
Chapter 12- Powerful Ease
Chapter 13- Courageous Vulnerability
Chapter 14- God Flowing in Us and Through Us
Chapter 15- Living a Life of Divine Inspiration

Sales arguments

• Author is a national thought leader for integrating faith and fitness being recognized as a top influencer for his men’s fitness ministry for 2019 by Faith & Fitness Magazine. He is also a contributing writer to Faith & Fitness Magazine. Some of Troy’s articles include “Relationships 101- The 1 0n 1 of a Fit Lifestyle”, “These Three Battles are Destroying Men’s Lives” and “Signs You Are Two-Faced, Trustworthy Wisdom for Guys”
• Author is an adjunct professor at William Jessup University, a Christian university. Troy is an influencer in the faith and fitness space that is now just starting to come to light. As a professor at a renowned and respected University Troy has the opportunity to shape the future of how we integrate our faith and fitness.
• Author has been doing a podcast on faith and fitness for over four years with approximately 18,000 downloads.

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• Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul by John Eldredge. Thomas Nelson Publishers Copyright 2001. In this book, Eldredge helps men look inside their true hearts and gives men permission to be what God designed them to be-dangerous, passionate, alive, and free.
• From Wild Man to Wise Man: Reflections on Male Spirituality, by Richard Rohr. Published by Franciscan Media Copyright 1990, 1996, 2005. This book helps men go from wild men to wise men with Richard Rohr as the mentor and guide.
• The Man in the Mirror by Patrick Morely. Zondervan Publishing Copyright 1989, 1992, 1997, 2014. In this book Morely invites men to look in the mirror, identify the problem areas, and make the changes necessary to love God, themselves, and others better.

Audience

For Christian men who are athletes at heart, who are committed to being better sons, brothers, friends, husbands, fathers and leaders.