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Sierra Melcher

Medellín, Colombia

Sierra Melcher is a Holistic Transformational Mentor, Women's Circle holder, Author: trained as a Doula, Reiki Master, Yoga teacher, and historian; She worked for years as an International Educator.

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Sierra Melcher is a Holistic Transformational Mentor, Women's Circle holder and Author. For 12 years she worked as an international educator teaching in schools around the world. She trained as a Doula, Reiki Master, Yoga teacher, and historian. In her current work, she has worked with women from 29 countries supporting the discovery and deepening of their "Primary Relationship," the relationship one has with herself. This is her 2nd book. She has written for several online magazines, published a short story in an anthology and has been a guest on several podcasts. She is from the USA and now lives in Medellin, Colombia.

Testimonials: “Sierra is remarkably adept at creating a space that is conducive to sharing and filled with compassion – but that also demands you confront the obstacles that may be preventing you from living the life you want.” – Courtenay

“The ‘action-based’ approach to her support meant that I gained small, tangible actions that I could easily achieve and that would bring me a little closer to my goals.”

“Mentoring with Sierra provided me with the creative space I needed to connect the dots of my past, present and future. I felt respected and supported and was reminded that life is truly limitless.” -Shatema

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Date Yourself:

A Practical Guide to Becoming the Most Important Person in Your Life!

The most intimate relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself. Make it juicy, fulfilling, full of devotion. You are the only who really can.

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The most intimate relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself. Instead of looking for “the one,” become your own best friend and soulmate! From there you will be replete, integrated, "flawesome." Whether you are looking for romance or not; whether you are in a relationship or not… you need to date yourself!  Only then will you be ready to have a healthy relationship, because will be it the most important person in your life. You could look out for yourself, tell the hard truths, celebrate even the littlest successes; you could like yourself and so much more. A romantic relationship with another person is not the goal, although a possible outcome. The goal is you digging you, what could be better than that! 

Sierra Melcher is a Holistic Transformational Mentor, Women's Circle holder. She  trained as a Doula, Reiki Master, Yoga teacher, and historian. She has worked with women from 29 countries supporting the discovery and deepening of their "Primary Relationship", her relationship with herself.

Date Yourself the book born out of years of supporting women to get to know themselves, treat themselves with the loving respect they lavish on others and to generally develop a tender dialogue with ones self.

The book is easy to read; Full of quick tools to improve your emotional, spiritual and romantic life; Fun activities, and plenty of questions to help untangle any unflattering stories people need to get rid of. Then deliberately reconstruct a resounding relationship. Construct the relationship you deserve from within.
Sierra’s creed is that you are already Perfect. Does that make you scoff?  She’ll remind you that you are young, passionate, dedicated to what you do. You are ambitious and high achieving, interested in self improvement and love. You do everything you set out to do and you do it well. Turn that determination and devotion toward the most deserving subject, you. Dating Yourself is a practice to rediscover your brilliance and eradicate your skewed self-perception by looking inward for the solutions. These practices have been helpful to her and her clients around the world; which proves that the tools here have been tried, tested and proven. This is a fully interactive guide with lots of journal prompts, activities and exercises. Learn what many women are benefiting from by dating themselves. Takeaways:

  • Breaking up well: letting go & declutter your emotional space
  • Gain intimacy with self about boundaries, pleasure, joy and self sufficiency
  • Dramatic shift in self-perception; Tools to build a thriving romantic relationship  

Read articles about Dating Yourself:  Elephant Journal  and  Thrive Global


Table of Contents

1. Introduction

Why this is a meaningful practice and what you need to get started

2. Ideal partner

Explore your "Hambre del Alma," Soul’s  longing. From there build a vision of your  alter ego, begin to incorporate this character into your life and then clarify what turns you on spiritually, what lights you up.

3. Mind games & stories we tell

We can be our own worst enemies by having expectations & projections. By remapping the stories we tell ourselves about who we are and what we want we can avert many of the common pitfalls and shift our identity.

4. Breaking up

We all carry with us emotional and energetic ties to our past. The exercises in this chapter specifically guide you to powerfully release your past and then how to specifically physically and energetically make space for something new.

5. Communication

Learn how you prefer to give and receive affection. Explore how you communicate your needs and desires both to yourself and others.

5. Flirting to dating

Navigate a course to getting familiar with yourself. Plan out a month of wooing and flirting with yourself culminating in a public “official date.”

6. Love

Where you learned its meaning and practiceToo many of us use this single word without having a common or clear definition of what it means. End this messy miscommunication by constructing a clear succinct definition of love.

7. You’ve got body

The Joys and sensuality of inhabiting a physical body. The activities here encourage you to practice and better acquaint yourself with the joy of your body. Pleasure is the new black. Discover what you enjoy and learn to offer that to yourself. Write Poetry of acceptance.

8. Dating your cycle

Plan your love affair to match/honor your menstruation cycle. Our energies and desires fluctuate. Honor that rhythm and take into consideration how that influences what you want and need.   

9. Putting it all together: Creating trust

Weaving communication and your vital energies together to be in alignment. Learn about the masculine, maternal and Femme energies we all possess and how to harness them. Reviving the atrophied Femme muscle of dreaming while channeling the masculine energy to get shit done.  

10. Commitment: Soul Contract

Practices to take this relationship you have begun with yourself to the next level, commit to continuing devotion to this relationship with yourself, for life.

11. Postscript: no “Happily ever after”

Relationships require attention and practice. If you want something valuable you need to keep vigilant and generous with your energy.


More women are single, later in life, than ever before. 53.2% of 110.6 million Americans, as of 2017 census. Romance has shifted dramatically in the last few decades. So many women, especially are choosing to be single. The new fixer-upper project is herself. Whether in a reaction to #metoo or putting all their focus on career many more women are choosing to be and stay single.   

Yet being in a relationship still positively correlates to happiness and long-term health, according to the UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center. Today’s ambitious and independent women are entering uncharted territory. But the road is rough and many still struggle with self-worth and feel societal pressure while they passionately pursue career and life goals.
Sierra Melcher personally worked with 350+ women from 29 countries. More than 56% of them are single, and all of them have reported feeling a haunting sense of something missing from their lives before they worked with Sierra.

Short Story:
“Mother Magic” Single Mothers Speak on Patriarchy, Editor, Trista Hendron. The Girl God 2016 Print
“Global Lessons from the Expat Entrepreneur” June 2016 Growth Advance Magazine, Issue #12.
“Simple (but Easily Forgotten) Practices That Improve Your Life and Business” July 2016 Growth Advance (Former online publication).
“Learning with Vigor: Social Justice and Student Voice in the International Classroom” 2012 Association of American Schools in South America (AASSA) Print
“Ecstasy: A Cookbook for Sweet Lovers!” Collected & Designed by Sierra Melcher Published by Siera Melcher, Pasadena, California 1994. Print


Sierra Melcher’s personal email list: 2,500 (friends and family, etc.)
Integral Women Email subscriber list: 500 people
Integral Women Instagram: 530 followers
Integral Women private FB group: 800 / 425 fb Followers
Clients: 350 personal relationships
Website monthly visits: 400-600
Active Contributor of the following private communities

  • Global Sisterhood: 50k
  • Worldschoolers: 49k
  • Wild Woman Sisterhood: 35k
  • BerkeleyX: GG101x The Science of Happiness: 19k
  • Women Entrepreneurs of Medellin: 1,264
  • She Hit Refresh: 4,200
  • Las Mamás Itinerantes: 2,500
  • Single Mom’s Do Travel: 2,200
  • She is Enough: 400
  • How Creation Works: 300
  • She is Lit: 65
  • YaYa's Women Circle - Donne in Cerchio: 44

Future Speaking Engagements
Savvy Miss Podcast - 12.1k followers
Herstory Global Women's Empowerment Conference Podcast with Getrude Matshe - 2k  followers
Herstory Global Women's Empowerment Conference: Colombia- Speaker & Co-Chair 1k+ attendees  2020
She is Enough:  375
How Creation Works! & Fundamentals of Energy Medicine course by Dr. Onani Carver - Gold medal winner for emerging scientists, theoretical division, from (International Society of Subtle Energy and Energy Medicine) 1.5k
Goddess Conference- July 2020 7.2K followers

Past Speaking Engagements 
Radio Cozumel 107.7 Interview/ guest speaker: February 13, 2019 (spanish)
Women Entrepreneurs of Medellin Conference - 95 attendees
Medellin: Keep Talking Lecture Series 45 attendees
Cafe Naturalia: Medellin, Colombia 15 attendees
Wellness Collective: 55 attendees 

Cuando pedir ayuda en los primeros 1000 dias (When to ask for help in the First 1000 days) 30 attendees


1. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, by Mark Manson, Harper; 2nd Edition (September 13, 2016). Funny, snarky, irreverent and playful; Date Yourself and Manson’s book have all of that in common. Turning the common topic of self-help on its head and shedding new light to allow people to live better is the strength to Manson’s book. Date Yourself does the same thing, but for women, and specifically about their relationship with themselves. 

2. Pussy: A Reclamation, by Regena Thomashauer, Hay House Inc.; 2 edition (April 3, 2018) is a powerful book coaching women to return to their inner capacity, power and awesomeness. Date Yourself has a similar message with a very different approach and for a potentially younger audience. The practical guide is just that, more practices and tools and less theoretical.

3. Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It, by Kamal Ravikant is quick, simple and direct. Date Yourself is similar in size and approach however, will have many more practical instructions and supporting tools.

4. Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha, by Tara Brach Bantam; 2nd ed 2015. Through weaving stories of clients Brach teaches fundamental truths about being fully who you are. Women who Dated themselves practice share their struggles, insights, breakthrough and more. These vignettes are shared in conjunction with easy-to-follow instructions, creative practices and fun challenges.

5. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, by Brene Brown, Avery; reprint 2015. Love is the greatest act of vulnerability and simultaneously requires that very same courage. To love anyone or anything is a risk, one worth taking. The risk to become your own “most important person” can be equally scary but the structure of Date Yourself and the clear step-by-step activities support capable vulnerability while coaching courage to do so.  

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Breaking up already? “I haven’t even started dating myself yet!”
No darling. We have some cleaning up to do of the past. This chapter is rich with exercises that are vital for finishing, once and for all, what you have carried with you until this point: old wounds, residual energy from past lovers, your internal predator (when you are your own worst enemy), and a lifetime of energetic clutter. You have a lot to break up with before you are ready to intentionally date yourself.

I will not let you be a rebound. This is not a relationship you jump into in order to numb the sting of a recent breakup. This is not a relationship you try on to distract you. This is not a relationship that is just en vogue. This is the real thing. You are going to have to get really dirty. Clean up all the old messes to make your tabula rasa, blank slate. If you skip this step, your future relationships will be tainted by your past the way your water bottle will taste of whatever was in it last if you don’t wash it.   

You have people to say goodbye to. You have personal patterns to shed. Old ideas linger. Clutter (emotional and physical) needs to be swept away to make space, literal and energetic, for something new: space for you. Have fun in the rumble. Savour all the sickening sensations. Be brave. Be bold. Let them wrack you. And then be done with them. Set them all ablaze and rise from the ashes.  

Step 1: Dear John letter(s).
Dear John letters are the original breakup via text. Traditionally partners may have been separated by great distance due to war etc. Women wrote Dear John letters to break up with boyfriend/husband usually because they had found a new lover. In your case, you are breaking up with ex’s, crushes, anyone who has a hold of your heart in any way… and YOU are the new lover.  

Write these letters to the people you are still clinging to emotionally or energetically. We all have people from our life, past or present. If there is still something nagging you, write it down. Crushes too. Unrequited love takes up a lot of space, clear it out, let it go, and make space for something else.

Dear John letters are:
Cathartic: release all old emotions onto the page to free yourself from storing
Full honest, no holds barred: leave it all on the page. Best when handwritten
Not meant to be sent (but could be if you feel that best serves your purpose)
Written like it will be burnt