Hi Friends, 

Many of you have asked me what my new book, Sexual Mindfulness, is all about. I decided that the best way to answer you is to actually give you a sample from all 18 chapters and let you see for yourself. Please respond to this email with any questions you still have. 

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In chapter 4 we'll explore your gender identity.

Your gender identity is the internal picture of what it means to you to  be a boy, girl, man, woman, both, neither.

In this chapter you'll explore your thoughts, feelings, self-talk, and mental images about  your gender identity using fun, easy to complete exercises.

In most cases a person's gender identity matches their biological sex. In other words, most biological men identify as men and most biological woman identify as women.

In fact, your initial gender identity is formed by the age of three.

Go ask any 3 year old girl what it means to be a girl and she will tell you. The same for boys.

Young transgender children can recollect that from an early age they felt trapped in the wrong body because their gender identities did not match their biological sex.

There are many factors that impact your gender starting with how you were greeted at birth. 

Many people call those initial reactions by your parents, caregivers, attending nurses and physicians etc your assigned gender.

I prefer to call it your assigned gender identity because I do not like lumping the three components of gender (biological gender, gender identity, gender role) together. 

If you were born with female genitalia at birth you were probably referred to at birth as a little girl and from that day on treated differently than your little brother who at birth was called a boy because he had a penis and testicles.

This assignment of gender identity is not necessarily a bad thing, it merely the traditional start of child rearing patterns that are strongly influenced by your biological sex.

As a result of your assigned gender identity there are expectations that others have for you. Parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, caregivers, teachers etc all expect you to look and act a certain way based on your assigned gender identity.

Many adults carry around gender expectations that others have for them that do not match how they see themselves as sexual creatures in the present moment. This mismatch is often the source of much personal anguish and seriously inhibits personal and relationship sexual satisfaction.

I do not take any position on how your biological sex and gender identity should match up or how you should see yourself.

That is for you to decide.

I am only concerned about how your thoughts, feelings, self talk, and mental images about your gender identity influence your personal and relationship sexual satisfaction.

In the rest of this chapter I'll give you exercises and activities to help you explore your thoughts, feelings, self-talk, and mental images related to this and how this has influenced your sexuality over the years.

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 Sound interesting?                                                                                                                                  

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Dr Rich