One Woman's Journey of Unf*cking Her Life
A woman's journey of facing and healing her past to find redemption for herself so she could reclaim her own wild soul and embrace the wild woman within.
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Unchained is the story of coming undone from a life that looked good on the outside, a constant striving for perfection, to be enough in a world that encourages us to be silent about our struggles in order to be accepted, fit in, be enough.
A series of painful, yet awakening me from my slumber, events led to me asking questions about my life, how it had gotten all messed up. This isn't how it was supposed to be. Life can't only be about struggling, suffering and dying. There has to be more to life.
In this book I take you on the journey of the 10 steps of coming undone from life's conditioning, early childhood trauma, becoming what everyone told me to be, finding myself on an extraordinary journey through the dark night of the soul to find myself, and becoming unchained from my past, turning my worst days into the foundation on which I rebuilt my life.
This story takes you on your own journey, questions what you believe and takes you on an extraordinary experience of what happens when we choose to heal our lives and take the heroine's journey to find the wild woman inside.
Inside of each of us is a wild woman, a part of us that knows the way, that knows the next right move, the next step. She knows the truth and she's been suffocated under the need to be pleasing, nice and conforming to societies demands of a woman.
The purpose of Unchained is to show you what's possible when you choose to heal, when you choose to step out of the box that society has put you in. When you choose to get outside of the normal, everyday suffocating reality that we exist in, we can find deeper meaning, deeper healing in the trauma's that we've endured in life, when we unleash the wild woman who has been sleeping too long.
Wild woman is our instincts, our worth, our intuition, our soul, our warrior, our goddess all wrapped into one.
Life is going to be challenging. It's life. Bad things will happen to people. I've learned on my journey that the easy thing to do in life is to create walls, to push people away, to hold ourselves back, to distrust. The hard part is to find a way to heal, to trust, to love, to open, to be ourselves in a world that constantly tells us to be someone or something else.
Unchained is the journey of getting it all unfucked, because for most of us, we've had a lot of stuff happen that causes us to operate from fear, trauma, coping, triggers. Unchaining ourselves from that is not only possible, it's necessary.
In order to live a thriving life we must come home to our wildness, our own soul, our own passion and purpose, to find who we really are under all that we've been buried under, pushing free to the surface, gulping in air that you've denied yourself so long as you rise from the ashes, hearing and answer the battle cry.
Chapter 1: Prologue - The call came like I knew it would. There's only so long a person can run from their past before it catches up.
Chapter 2: Breaking Down - our biggest fears are right in front of us, being messy, being needy, being unable to recover. I spent my life putting together a facade, an image to cover up my broken bits, and now it was falling away as I desperately tried to keep it back, like an over stuffed closet, my pieces were spread everywhere.
Chapter 3: Breakdown- there comes a point where the flood can no longer be contained. The force of what's behind the dam comes bursting out and there's a sinking to the knees that is heart wrenching, terrifying, and yet freeing in the same moment. There is no more pretending, no more denying as the decades of self denial, self hate, and pretending wash over you, leaving you unable to get off the floor.
Chapter 4: Rock Bottom - In the breakdown you think you've hit you've hit your lowest point, but you realize you haven't. As you try to get up before being ready, before facing it all, before dealing with it all, it pulls you back down. When you're at rock bottom, you know it, it's a cold lonely place but there is solace in that pain. At least I can feel something, after the decades of not feeling at all, that's better than numb.
Chapter 5: The dark night of the soul - As it turns out rock bottom has a basement. When I was strong enough to finally face it, to sort through it all, to pick up the pieces, as I examined my life today and it had links to my denial of my past, my stories, my inability to face the truth of who knew and did nothing, the truth of how little I expected for myself, and how hard I was on myself. The dark night was a twisted, excorism style spewing of all the rage, the anger, the shame, the fear mixed into one stinking pile that caused both pain and freedom.
Chapter 6: The Rise: You think the storm will never end, that you'll be stuck in this mess forever, that the darkness will be your life forever. I found myself constantly wishing I had never started this journey. But I was reminded that I didn't do it intentionally. I would have been happy to live a blissed out life of denial. But that was not my journey in my life. And the storm clouds passed. I didn't trust it at first but there was sun again and I knew the worst was over.
Chapter 7: The Finding - Now I had a fresh start. Who was I? What did I like? What did I want? I had fresh eyes, fresh understanding, a new outlook on life and realized I had the opportunity to create my life. What would I find?
Chapter 8: The Being - finding yourself is one thing, being it is another. As I emerged from this dark phase and began to change, I was met with backlash, lack of understanding, negativity from those around me who no longer understood me. I could see how easy it was to retreat behind those walls. And I danced that game - seeing clearly why we do that - we change to be more comfortable, more accepted, fit in.
Chapter 9: The Reclaiming - Through all of the challenges, we're guided to find ourselves, to be ourselves and reclaim all the parts of us we lost as we grew up, coping the only way we knew how.
Chapter 10- Unchained - Becoming unchained is about more than learning, it's about doing, applying, implementing every day, not allowing ourselves to be groomed or conditioned. It is following the code of our soul in the wild woman manifesto to be who we really are, a fully reclaimed woman, in her power.
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An award winning author has offered to do the foreword for my book. I have an email list of 1400 + and a social media following of 4000+.
I have spoken at One Woman Fearless, Mo Monday's, hosted International Women's Retreats, been published in the Elephant Journal, and a regular speaker at corporate events.
I have been interviewed by CBC Morning Show as well as CBC Newfoundland & Labrador.
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Prologue
The call came, like I knew it would. While I never thought much about it consciously, it was always there.
At that time, I faced the news like I did everything in my life – push it away. Look like I dealt with it but mostly just put it in a box, push it into the recesses of my mind and act like I was fine. I was always fine, afterall.
It would take years to realize that call was the catalyst for the most glorious fall from of a life of denial and a life half lived to being unable to deny how I was not living at all.
Having the unique ability to disassociate meant it took a long time to realize what was happening. I was struggling, I knew that. Nothing was like it was before, I couldn’t push things away like I had been able to in the past. I had started writing as a way to express my thoughts and feelings. I had stopped writing years earlier when a guidance counselor told me that writing was a pipe dream and I should consider a degree change. So I did.
Everything happens for a reason though and as Ernest Hemingway says “In order to write about life, you must first have lived”. As I felt called to write again I didn’t seem in control of my pen. What came out surprised even me. I was writing from somewhere other than my head.
It was somewhere deep, saying and writing the truth in a way I had never been able to see or face.
And while the journey had long since been started, one journal entry turned blog post changed everything – it was this post that really started my journey to the hardest and darkest parts of my life.
I finally let myself fall, knees hitting the ground, I could no longer pretend I was fine:
Originally published on Tonya, Uncensored – my blog.
We’re not meant to be managed. We’re not here as an accessory.
Have you ever hit rock bottom? Emotionally? I have. I stood in the darkest moment of my life, lost my passion, lost my zest for life and wondered “what does it all mean?” Have you ever felt like you were caught in the “Truman Show”? Like a rat in a cage, going round and round in circles, but knowing that this isn’t how life is meant to be?
I should say, I was on my knees in the darkest hour, what’s next? Get a job? Try a different lifestyle? Why not sit home and drink beer and eat chips like so many other people do. Preaching about weight loss when it seems the world doesn’t care most of the time. They know it’s bad for them and yet they pull up to the drive through window like hamsters on a wheel… wake up, eat, work, eat, watch tv, eat, surf the net, eat. I felt like I was on the outside looking in, trying to shake people awake and then I found myself wondering “do I even care anymore?” If people don’t care about themselves, how can I keep caring about them? And I felt hopeless. You have your hand up, but the teacher won’t pick you and the louder you yell pick me pick me, the more she ignores you.
And for a brief time I thought, what if I stopped caring? What if I got a job and life was easier? Would I really be giving up? Sure, I make a “decent living” but it’s never been about the money for me. If I won the lottery tomorrow, I’d still do this. Quitting was impossible but continuing, also impossible.
That’s stuck, in a big way.
And I couldn’t move. I felt like I couldn’t breath. I couldn’t sleep but I couldn’t get up. I felt like lead and I wondered, maybe I should just worry about myself and stop fixing everyone. Maybe I should give up.
And I did give up. Inside. I was going through the motions. Get up. Walk the dogs. Get breakfast. Work without passion or purpose or focus. I felt lost. I can’t continue but I can’t quit. I felt torn and raw and broken. I pulled away from people. I deleted people on social media. I stopped seeing the beauty of the world. I saw negativity. I saw hate. I felt rage and pain and bitterness.
And then I saw and felt nothing. I felt like nothing. Without purpose there is no passion and without passion, there is nothing. And the darkness became so heavy that getting up seemed impossible. I thought "where is the girl I used to be? Why can’t I find her? Why can’t I motivate myself? Why can’t I use all of the tools that I know to get me up? Why hasn’t anyone noticed that I don’t give a shit about anything anymore? Does anyone even care? If I wasn’t here, would they even notice?"
And that’s where I found rock bottom. I always thought it would be horrible. I heard stories of it and I’ve had some low points in my life… but nothing like this. When you look around the landscape of your life amid the abundance you have and feel nothing, you can’t will yourself to be happy because you feel purposeless. That was my rock bottom.
But in the darkness a part of me knew I had to stay there. I had to feel the realness, the rawness and the messiness of life, the pain, the hurt, the fear, the scars, the healing, the tears. I cried more in a week than I had in all the years prior and there I found her. The Wild Souled Woman who was buried beneath the garbage of life. The part of me that I no longer recognized… caught up in the day to day, fitting into life as we know it, caught on the treadmill, stuck in the rat race, doing what we should, colouring inside the lines.
And there I found myself And I wrote this:
We weren’t born to be managed, to fit into a box, to sit on a pedestal or a shelf and look pretty. We weren’t born to be brainwashed step ford wives who do as we’re told and look pretty and colour inside the lines and know our place. Few can handle our energy, our passion and our zest for life and so they box us in because they fear us, and we let them because we’re afraid of it ourselves. We don’t fit the mould. In fact, we were born to break the mould. We know there’s some wild, visceral and primitive inside us clawing to get out- to dance free in the sunshine and the rain, to jump in puddles and crawl through the mud. We’re alive at the core, a fire in our soul that ignites the world around us, animals talk to us and through us, the universe is aligned with us, people gravitate to us but we want to be left alone, to play in the playground of life, in experience, to feel the rawness and beauty of and perfection in our perfectly imperfect lives. We can knockout a crowd in a little black dress, heels and the perfect shade of lipstick but We’re messy, some might say broken, but they don’t yet know the call of the wild – the untamed passion and life that flows in us and through us.
I am a woman. Let me spell it for you G.O.D.D.E.S.S.
Hear me growl, because I’m not supposed to.
And then I got up from my knees and knew my purpose was to help women everywhere, find and tap into their inner Goddess, to light up a room with charm, stamina, charisma. Light came to the darkness but the darkness showed me who I really was. The darkness brought me to a place inside of myself that I had never allowed myself to be or even see… a wild souled woman who is not here to fit the mold, who is not here to be managed but who is here to break the mold and help women, everywhere, find their own inner wild woman.
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As I share my story, it is not linear. It moves, as my journey unfolded, from present to past and back to present to ancient wisdom and modern strategies to help me through it all, to older and deeper and more recent wounds.
When we dive into the questions of how it got all fucked up we aren’t led on a neat and tidy journey. Things we do today, what we believe, is all related to numerous moments of impact – things and experiences that shaped our thoughts and belief systems, maybe even changed us permanently so we could be in a world we didn’t make sense of.
As I tell my story it’s an unravelling, an unbinding, an unchaining, of sorts, of what lead to “this” that I was struggling so deeply with – the search took me all over the place and the re-telling of the story will shift.
Chapter 1: The Wild
The first time I called myself a Wild Souled Woman I felt something inside of me awaken.
It was the fist time I spoke the absolute truth. I felt in my soul this was who I really was, not the half living, scared, needing to fit in, looking for approval in all the wrong places person I had been living as. It had come on the heels of the most spectacular fall, smashing my kneecaps and everything I believed to be true in the process. The wild I discovered is something that beats in every fiber of our being, that is inside of us. We
are wild, instinctual, and intuitive by nature. But it’s beaten, burned and conditioned out of us.
The madness and sadness I had been feeling when I wrote those words – I AM A WILD SOULED WOMAN – stirred something powerful inside of me. I was awakened to more, to the possibility that something raw, visceral and wild was coursing through my veins.
And it was determined to find it’s way to the surface.
I had been living as though I were an ornament with no other purpose than to please others, to look pretty, to color inside the lines and not make others upset. But I wasn’t born to sit on a shelf and look pretty, my only value in my looks and my body.
I wasn’t born to keep the peace. I was born to rock the boat, to upend things and while I had fallen gloriously into the pits of hell, I was about to rise and I was going to take the whole damn world with me.
I had felt the sting of not being good enough my entire life. I was running from what I believed to be the truth of being a broken, hurt, damaged girl. The more I accomplished, the more I was hiding from that reminder of who I was, where I came from and what I had experienced. Nothing could hide my obsession with my looks –it overshadowed everything else.
My only true value was in my body – that no matter what else I knew I could meet my needs that way.
I was now acutely aware of how I had been living, how much I put in what others thought of me and if the outside looked good then perhaps no one would notice the cracks inside. No amount of degrees, approval or hours worked, or boxes checked off on an imaginary checklist “get all this and be enough” to make me feel enough.
I didn’t realize how little I was living, striving to be good enough, to be perfect enough. I don’t recall a time in my life where my body wasn’t my main focus. There was a brief blissful time of pure happiness when I started my fitness journey and healed my eating disorders.
Within a short time I became a trainer and I was back to being measured by forces outside of me to say if I was good enough. Did I have this set of abs or what was my weight? My body was again more important than anything else.
I now realize how much I was perfecting the outside without looking into the inside. I was running from myself and nothing could hide that forever.
Layer by layer life has provided me with the learning I needed to come home to me, to my own wild soul. I have always wanted everything to be finished NOW. I didn’t like to wait. But as I’ve realized, the lessons will be repeated until we learn them and we will be constantly presented with opportunities to clear, change and grow into the people we are.
Finally understanding that I was not here to be a toy, an ornament, was profound and freeing in ways I cannot explain. Without a good body, who was I? What did I represent? What did I stand for? Why was I here and why had my life been so full of pain and failure?
And yet, why did I still strive forward. Why did I know so many people who never took chances, never took risks or who learned from their mistakes? Why did I always keep going, keep pushing to find a way through? Why didn’t I go away with my tail between my legs and give up?
My knees had hit the ground and I was forced to see how I had shown up, how I had been living, or better yet, not living, life. When I knew I was a wild souled woman, when I declared that I felt it in every fiber of my being as the truth. But I had no idea what it really meant, but I knew it was my destiny. I was wild. There was something inside of me that was clawing to get out. I had been stuffed down, silenced, trying to be the good girl, the pleaser, to be seen and heard and feel important.
I felt the need to breathe, to break free, kick and scream and not care about making a scene or how it sounded or looked and felt.
I was living for attention, starved for affection, and I got it in any way possible. It became the very root of my existence – to try to be enough. And yet I always seemed to come up short. No matter what I did or accomplished it never seemed to be enough.
My measure of worth had been on my body only – if I was pick material that told me I was enough. I cringe thinking about that. I even asked my husband “but would you pick me up”? A pick up is not a measure of your looks, sex appeal or anything else except how easily you can be used.
I was usable. Disposable. Realizing this was painful. But it was necessary for me to see what I had put value in, how I measured my worth.
Removing the veils, unearthing the layers, looking at the things I’d avoided seeing for so long, facing the truth of how I was living my life led me to the wild, that instinctual nature that we all have inside of us. I buried that a long time ago, when I buried a part of myself.
While many people who know me today could never imagine me as a scared, pathetic, desperate person. That is the truth of how I was living. I never felt like I could fit in anywhere, no matter who I became, how much I changed.
Those who see me today think I stand up for things; that courage lights my path, but it didn’t always. I wasn’t always brave. I still don’t feel brave most days but I’ve learned that I have an inner voice that knows who I am, knows the path I am here to follow and what feels good to my soul and I try my hardest to listen to that voice.
I’m not always successful and sometimes I fail, but along the journey I discovered that the fall is just as important the rise. We cannot become who we are if we don’t explore who we have been and why.
We cannot create new patterns if we don’t clear away the triggers that bring us back into the old stories, the old habits, and the old patterns. People call it nature versus nurture. I call it conditioning. We become what we needed to become, what we were conditioned to become, what we thought we had to become in order to survive, to fit in, be accepted.
Removing that conditioning requires a willingness to explore the darkness inside of us and see how we have been truly living, what we have valued and believed in.
When we fit into places because we change who we are, it’s not the right fit. Our willingness to stand alone, to be who we are, is what will help us find where do fit, who we do fit with, who our tribe is. When we change ourselves we will never feel like we fit because we aren’t who we are and we have to hide from ourselves.
It’s like building a new house on a rotten foundation. Its going to crumble. When I first changed my life through fitness and eating well and changing how I thought, that was phase 1 – phase 2 was the clearing out of the foundation and starting anew. That’s why I fell, because I had changed a lot but I never got into the foundation of what I had built my life, and therefore old patterns and habits, on.
We all have a shadow side and ignoring the shadow, band aiding and pretending will not help us find the elusive happiness. In fact, the search for happiness is the very cause of unhappiness. What if instead we searched for ourselves, who we are in a world that has constantly told us how to be, how to live, what to do, what we can be and can’t be?
What if happiness is not the goal at all but that finding and becoming who you are is the ultimate goal and that will lead you to happiness?
Most people get to a place in life where they begin asking bigger more profound questions. You might find yourself at a place where you have done everything that was supposed to make you happy, but it didn’t. Or your children are grown and they were your sole purpose for living and now they don’t need you like they did and you’re lost – wondering what’s next? Or you’ve found yourself on the end of crisis, wondering how it got so fucked up?
The 3rd one was mine with a splash of the 1st one. We get to a place in life where we question is this all there is? What am I living for? We realize that we had an idea of what life would be like and we ended up nowhere that image. Our blueprint in life (the idea of what it would be like) versus the reality we live in daily are often in conflict and that’s why we experience suffering.
How many times have you finished a goal, gotten where you wanted to be only to realize it didn’t give you what you wanted. It’s why people revert to old behaviors, because we think losing the weight, getting the money, the job, the partner, the children will give us something.
But it does not. Nothing outside of you can give you what’s missing from the inside. We focus on the surface problems and not on the real problem. What causes us to silence ourselves, take a back seat, and get off the path? What causes us to settle, to pretend we don’t want what we do want? What causes us to create the same cycles over and over again?
I was obsessed with my body. I thought if I could get the perfect body I would find happiness. I would feel complete. But I never did and no matter how perfect my body became I didn’t feel any closer to who I was. In fact, I often felt more frustrated because I didn’t understand why I still felt like crap or why things were still going wrong.
I thought my weight was the magic solution to fixing everything, if I was thin enough I’d get _______ (love, attention, approval, confidence, fit in, acceptance).
Finding my wild helped me realize that nothing I wanted was fixable outside of me. The wild is a place inside that can only be accessed when we’re willing to go inward to explore the darkness, explore our behaviors, and explore our emotions, feeling and life experiences that led us to make the decisions we did and believe what we believe.
We need to learn about who we are, what drives us and what motivates us to do the things we things we do, what we are really seeking and only then can we sink into who we are really, clearing out the old stuff and building ourselves anew – like a phoenix rising from the ashes.
I had called myself a lot of things over my lifetime – fat, ugly, stupid, weak, not good enough, a loser, no one would like me, no one would love someone like me.
The easiest way to being wanted was through sex appeal. I could always feel wanted and significant by selling out my soul for a brief encounter that met my short needs but robbed me of myself long-term.
Through the darkest of days in my life, days where I couldn’t imagine going on but couldn’t imagine ending it, searching for the answer to my pain and suffering emerged this vision, this truth, this me that I had never seen before....
The wild is a place within and my story is about my own unchaining to find my own wild soul and let that lead my life...
The wild is a place within you, too...
Hey there,
I wanted to send a personal note to let you know that the book is officially launched and it's publicly available in all …
I'm so excited to share this update with you... there has been much activity behind the scenes getting all pre-orders out to everyone + all …
I'm SO excited to tell you about the book and how it's going :) And an incredible free workshop that I have for you!
So, all 575 …
I'm sending an update to let you know that the early editions are printed and on the way to me!
Wild hey?
They are scheduled …
Today the final cover was approved.
We are weeks away from the Early Launch for those who supported the campaign by picking up a pre-order …
I'm SO excited to let you know that after meeting with my publisher - Morgan James - today we have settled a few things :) And …
I wanted to land in your inbox this morning to say THANK YOU for your patience. Wow, I thought writing a book would be the hardest …
We have some exciting news to share today!
We expect the book to be in stores and available for public release Late 2019/Early 2020 - …
Hi! I'm so excited to follow up with you and confirm that Morgan James will be publishing Unchained!
We signed the deal just a few …
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Very exciting email this evening as I say "we have a book deal" because that includes YOU... as someone who has picked up a …
There's just one hour left to get final copies of the Unchained book and support the project!
Thank you to everyone who has supported the …
Hey! Just a quick update that we've got about 48 hours left to the campaign. We've already hit our key numbers but the books sold the …
I'm so excited to say we've hit 100% of the required orders! If you haven't picked up your copy yet, you can still do so. But …
Ok, the actual numbers on the site are sitting at 457 but we've got 60 more books coming down the pipes tomorrow.
Which means we …
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That means we have only 22 more …
OMG! We've just hit 416 books sold. I'm surrounded by some seriously amazing people - friends who have stepped up to support me in ways …
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Hello my beautiful friends and followers and supporters of this campaign. I won't lie. This month has been intense. Working through a lot of deep feelings …
We're down to the wire and into the sprint stage of the book. Thank you so much for your ongoing and continued support!
If you …
We're so excited to announce that we've got 4 publishers interested in the book and we've hit more than 25% of our goal of books …
I'm so excited to share with you that we've reached our first goal! We have exceeded 100 copies in a short time - 36 hours! …
Can’t wait to read it!
Love you and always cheering you 🙏💕
Bestseller here you come
I ordered. Can't wait to read it.
Can’t wait to read your story ! Xo
Just preordered! Wishing you every success! Xo
Congrats on your book I look forward to reading it! cheers to much success <3
I love you Tonya!!!! Let’s hit 500!!!! Xoxo
So excited to read your book! Love you ♥️
So excited for you!
Congratulations Tonya! Eeeeek!! This IS HAPPENING!! I am so excited for you! It's a privilege to support you in this book campaign. It's a privilege to know you. Knowing you professionally as your client and personally as a woman has been life changing for me. So many wildly wonderful relationships and adventures have entered my life since you did. I have learned so much and I continue to learn & grow. I am so thankful that our paths crossed 5/6 years ago and that I was able to watch you evolve into the authentically wild souled woman that you are. Thank you for inspiring me to look deep within myself. I can't wait to get your book!!!! XOXO
Congrats, looking forward to reading the book
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You're an inspiration!
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So happy and proud. You are a phenomenal woman. ❤
So privileged to get the opportunity to glimpse into your past and learn from you through a different medium
Congratulations! So happy for you! Thank you for showing the way to the wild! Your journey is inspiring!
Love all your inspiring FB posts .Cannot wait to read your book !
Can’t wait to read it, Tonya. Congrats!
I’m so happy for you Tonya and I can’t wait to read it! Thank you for sharing! Good luck with your campaign ❤️!
xoxo
Tasha
Such an exciting time :) Can't wait to read it!
I just ordered your book and can’t wait to read
It! So
Proud of you for doing this and for never giving
Up on your dreams.
Congratulations Tonya and best of luck to you.
I am so excited for you! Can't wait to receive my signed copy! It's a privilege to be on this journey with you, thanks for sharing your soul! I'm So grateful we meat through RetreatU!
Love Theodora!
Can’t wait to read it Tonya! I wish you success on this venture and all your pursuits. Krissy
Best of luck my friend!
Can't wait to read this book!
Cannot wait!
Good luck Dickie. Got one for Mudder too.
So proud of you! Can’t wait to read this!
You’ve got this! You’re so incredible! I’m so proud of you and proud to call you my friend! ❤️
So glad to help you with this
SO very proud of you!!!! Love You ... <3
I am so excited for you! I cannot wait to hear your story. xo
Can’t wait to read it. Love you
Can’t wait to read your book! So proud of you and your accomplishments! Strong Women supporting each other.
Good luck!!
So excited to read this !
Incredibly excited for you my darling! You are amazing, you are enough and thank you, I love you.
Ordered your book today, looking forward to reading it.
I just wanted to say Thank You - to you; for having the courage to take the leap! You are amazing! I can’t wait to read your NEXT book! See you at the fire!
Looking forward to reading it, Tonya!
Just ordered my copy Tonya! :-)
Yes!! You got this! 🙏
<3 <3 <3 all the love for you!!
So proud of you !
So proud of you! Can’t wait to read it xo
All the best! You rock! 💕
Ordered!! Looking forward to it Tonya! Best of luck!
Can't wait to read this :)
Ordered, you' ll do it 😊 Diane
Wishing you the very best
Glad to have helped you get closer to your dream Tonya. Good luck with everything girl.
Can’t wait to read your book.
I can’t wait.
Congratulations Tonya!!! I look forward to reading your story!!! And sharing a second copy with someone ♥️
Cannot wait to read it! I’m so excited and happy for you! 😘
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Good luck Tonya! Can't wait to read it.
Can’t wait to read it and share it with friends! Congratulations on all your hard work Tonya! So happy for you! You deserve every bit of it! You’re an inspiration, my Dolly!
Keep reaching for the stars ✨
Leeann Miller bought this book.
Best of luck from Leeann 🙂
Book ordered
Let hope it did this right now...lol take care😀
I truly felt engaged when you spoke at the Fearless Summit in Hamilton Ontario. Thank you Tonya... I look forward to receiving and delving into your book.
Just ordered! Can't wait to read your book :)
So very happy for you!! Take Care
The Universe just has it so right..... as always! I too am starting on my "Me Too!" journey. Shame has come up for me in 2 different past incidences within the last 24 hours in meditation, then just now your email arrived, with you talking about shame. So of course this grabbed my attention and love your writing style so booked your book and now waiting. Wish you all the very best blessings on your journey.May we keep reaching out to others with love.
Looking forward to reading your book Tonya. Congratulations.
CAN'T wait to read it!!
We are so proud of you, Tonya! It’s no easy task to write a book, and about something so personal. Rock on, sista! xoxo
Congrats on the book !
Tonya, I admire your courage so much. Dad and I are excited to get your book. So proud of you xo
Looking forward to reading your book!
Fantastic interview, brave woman
I’m so proud of you lady!! You make being courageous attainable!! ❤️
So proud of you xox
Good luck !!
You go girl, reach for the stars. I always knew you would write a book, and told you I would buy it. Your amazing, sending lots of love.
Looking forward to reading your story
Thank you Tonya for writing about your journey and helping others on theirs. Brightest Blessings, Amanda
Hi Tonya,
I stumbled across your website advertising your upcoming retreat and it intrigued me but then seen it is in Quebec and living on the westcoast it is too far away.
So who is this wise woman I thought? She is speaking to me and I can so relate to what your saying. Upon looking further discovered you have written a book that I can't wait to read.
I believe we all have a story to tell and I'm looking forward to reading yours.
In Love & Light,
Ronda
You are amazing ❤️ You have already helped me so much in the short time I’ve known you. Thank you for being you! I can’t wait to read your book!
Can't wait to read. Taking on the age of 40 soon and hoping to be brave enough to take on a new wild journey of my own!
Keep shining my friend!
Can’t wait to read this :) wish u all the best!
Looking so forward to reading your book 😍
Looking forward to reading it!
Thank you for your story and all that you do <3
So proud of you xoxo
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