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Mellany Paynter

Mellany Paynter

Mellany is a first time author, entrepreneur and life enthusiast whose personal mantra is YOU MATTER. You owe it to yourself to fix whatever it is that does not make you whole.

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Dancing At The Crossroad

A Guided Journal

Dancing At The Crossroad is an intimate narrative portrait of how I used the power of journaling to cope with the harsh reality of overcoming loss. A part memoir and journal, I recount my personal roller-coaster journey dealing with the unexpected passing of my mother.

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New York, New York
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11 publishers interested

Synopsis

Dancing at The Crossroad, which started as a therapeutic exercise for me to cope with the emotional roller-coaster of grieving the loss of my mother, in time provided renewal and permitted me to move on.  After 3 1/2 years of compiled jottings I am able to share my journey, with the sole purpose of helping others realize they are not alone and there is no “normal” timetable for grieving.

What I have in this book isn't another set of 'solutions' for grief, but a very emotional account of my experience through the course of dealing with my loss that forced me into healing and escape making decisions that could have jeopardized my future. At the end of the day my hope is that you draw inspiration from my story within and know that you have the power within you to overcome your crisis if you are willing to do the time.
This book compassionately addresses the personal journey from real despair to healing surrounding a loss crisis. Loss is never easy, but it is how we emerge from its grasp that shows strength and resilience.

In 2010 my mother died unexpectedly after a brief outpatient surgery at home, alone in Trinidad.  The circumstances surrounding my mom’s death, and the fact that she died alone, crushed me emotionally.  As an only child, I was faced with the reality of being left “alone” without my mother, to deal with the burden of loss and guilt. Physically, I was able to carry out everyday routines, but mentally I was lost; my passion disappeared and I lost her sense of purpose, even contemplating taking my own life.  That’s when I started journaling, which saved my life!

Outline

The book is broken into eight chapters, presenting my true-life experience and journey from losing to regaining faith.

The first seven chapters document my own crisis of faith through the seven stages of grief. Yes, I experienced them all! It just isn’t a story though, it is also a challenge. You also have a chance to journal through your own crisis. The questions posed after each chapter are some of the same questions posed to me at each juncture of my journey, and are a pathway to genuinely embrace the healing process and focus on getting back to the joy of life.

Chapter eight shows how writing/journaling through the pain can lead to moments of clarity that will eventually lead to fulfillment. It ends by telling about my move to New York, and creating a new medium that allows others to also tell their story through a video series called
My Crossroad Journey (https://youtu.be/Z_9MjLka0uo).

*For each book pre-ordered in this campaign, some of the proceeds after publication will go to help those dealing with mental health issues.*

The 12,000 word manuscript has been completed. After the crowdfunding campaign, the plan is:
Editing: The book will be edited in mid 2016 by (insert name) (insert credentials here) (insert website address if applicable)

Publication: The book is expected to be printed and delivered by late 2016 depending on where you live, just in time for the changing season.
My plan is to self-publish according to the above timeline, but it is also possible to get traditional publishers interested in this campaign. Your support will definitely make a difference, and I am very grateful for your consideration. If 250 copies of this book are pre-ordered, there is a greater chance a quality publisher may be interested in distributing this book.

Table of Contents

Chapter 1: The Final Curtain Call                                           
This chapter recalls the journal entry specifics of the day I received the fated phone call that told of the death of my mother and the busyness that came with planning a home-going ceremony.

Grief Phase: Shock and Denial. This chapter dares the reader to relive both the painful and pleasurable feelings they experience.

Chapter 2: Facing Reality                                                                       
One month later I am faced with the realization that my mother is never coming back. I relive my feelings of emptiness and guilt, my anger at God and not understanding why this had to happen.

Grief Phase: Pain and Guilt. It leads the reader to explore the pain felt and describes how this pain manifests in their life.  The author engages further on the having the reader explain the feelings of guilt and the reasons why.

Chapter 3: Not Quite A Reality                                                               
In this chapter I discuss the breakdown with the relationships around me and how I view everyone. I am living out two people at the same time: one publicly and one privately.

Grief Phase: Anger and Bargaining. The reader is asked to describe the angry feelings and identify where and with whom comfort is found. They are also encouraged to write letters of apology to the recipients of this anger.

Chapter 4: Still Coping                                                 
This chapter begins my total withdrawal from religious affiliation and marks the start of many dreams of my mother. I recall my return to my childhood home where my mother resided. 

Grief Phase: Reflection and Loneliness. The reader is challenged to dig deep to recall memories of happiness with their loved one, and share their thoughts on how they are taking score of the actions of the people around them.

Chapter 5: Temporary Transformation                                    
One year later I think I am ready for change. I continue to have dreams of my mother and hope that these dreams would give me some semblance of her current state wherever she is.  I am starting to come to terms with her absence.

Grief Phase: The Upward Turn. The readers get a lesson is gratefulness and is urged to record everything they are grateful for up to this point.

Chapter 6: Searching For Myself                                  
I waver between my own guilt and finding hope for the future. I still struggle emotionally and have vivid dreams of interacting with my mother.

Grief Phase: Reconstruction and Working Through. The readers are challenged to talk about the good that has come from this loss.

Chapter 7: The Light Is Turned On                                        
I relive reaching my breaking point and identifying the actions and situations that I am able to assess that were damaging to my healing process. I feel awakened to start making positive changes.

Grief Phase: Acceptance and Hope. The re-creation process begins and the reader is challenged to list things that will renew.

Chapter 8: What Really Matters                  
I have made drastic changes in my life, necessary to my healing. I feel confident that I can move forward with courage and take control of my life, empowering in a new direction.

Audience

This book comes at a time when many of my friends are losing their parents; we are at that age. Though some have had time to prepare, the impact of the loss is always the same. Like most, you know more than one person who has lost someone special or lost something that has changed the course of their life. The journey post-loss is devastating to some and begs the question - Why do some people emerge from a crisis with their sanity intact while others don’t? 

Everyone has or will face crises in life. The one thing I learned is that loss in general is never easy, and everyone’s experience is different, but it is how we emerge from its grasp that shows strength and resilience. Dancing At The Crossroad would be a lifeline of sorts to anyone who could use one.

READER BENEFITS

1. You will be compelled to walk through this crisis of faith without giving up on yourself.

2. You will feel the compassion and understanding as you identify with my own journey that may be similar to yours.

3. While recognizing your own story in the pages of Dancing At The Crossroad, you will discover that while it is acceptable to feel varying emotions at different times, it isn’t healthy or acceptable to get stuck in one wave.

4. You will be able to identify the seven phases of grief and which ones you have experienced or are currently experiencing.

5. You will be compelled to turn back to life and stay on course and trust your own healing process.

Author

Mellany Paynter’s intimate journey of discovering there is no normal timetable to overcome grieving the loss of her Mom, was the key that allowed her healing process to naturally unfold and her inspiration to write Dancing at The Crossroad.  

Through Dancing at The Crossroad, Mellany has created a keepsake for the “bookends of life” and ignited a personal passion to inspire others' healing journey — facing reality and realizing what really matters.  Dancing at The Crossroad is her first guided journal book in the series.  

Mellany Paynter is currently the CEO of Her Billions, a consulting company that facilitates visual strategies that inspires other women entrepreneurs to boost productivity and efficiency.  She holds a Bachelors in Civil Engineering from Howard University and her interests include fusing visual mapping and analytical skills to help others grow professionally and personally.  Her main focus is improving quality of life and encouraging women to find balance in every area of life. When she is not facilitating  workshops or attending meetings, she is serving as an Advisory Board Member for other small businesses or enjoying life biking. Mellany is a native of Trinidad, currently residing in New York City.

Promotion

I am a new author to the publishing world, but will work closely with the publisher to actively promote Dancing At The Crossroad through a vlog campaign - conversations with people who have all faced a life crisis, endured at a crossroad and come out on top. The vlog will be featured online (YouTube and Vimeo). As well, I have created a personal website (www.mellanypaynter.com), with updates and a vlog, and developing other mass media and e-promotional author promotion strategies.

Competition

Books by Martha Hickman, I J Weinstock et al., have addressed the topic of healing after loss and have shared words of inspiration to help readers. Yet few books specifically address the personal journey that millions walk every day after losing someone near and dear to them. The books on this topic offer perspectives in medicine and psychological healing but do not tell a story while offering a guided walk towards hope.

There are several titles available that address healing from grief/loss of a parent. They are:

* Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss by Hope Edelman
* Loss of A Parent by Burchett Jackson
* How To Survive Loss of A Parent by Lois F. Akner and Catherine Whitney
* Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief by Martha Hickman
* The Grief Recovery Handbook by Clint Jensen
* On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through The Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler
* The Loss That Is Forever: The Lifelong Impact of The Early Death Of A Mother Or Father by Maxine Harris
* I Wasn’t Ready To Say Goodbye by Brook Noel and Pamela Blair PhD

It takes more than steps to help readers overcome the stages of grief/loss! For every person who is spiritually drifting—or is on the verge—or knows someone who has lost someone the thing that stands out most is the solo journey that one must embark on in order to achieve healing. Dealing with grief is a personal experience that does not necessarily emulate anybody else’s; it is unique to each individual. Listening to a compassionate story and being able to identify with someone else who has experienced the brokenness and emerge unscathed, will encourage readers and empower them to re-invent their faith and hope.

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  • Lee Constantine on July 22, 2016, 2:30 a.m.

    Can't wait for this book! Let me know when it goes live!! Best

  • Safiya Yearwood on July 25, 2016, 12:52 p.m.

    I look forward to reading it! Congratulations once again Mel :)

  • Asha Douglas on July 25, 2016, 2:25 p.m.

    Can't wait to read!! so proud of you Mel!! xoxo

  • Cara Pascal on July 25, 2016, 3:05 p.m.

    Looking forward to receiving my copy!

  • Yolanda English on July 25, 2016, 5:23 p.m.

    Woot woot I pre-ordered my copy of "Dancing At The Crossroad"

  • Crystal Profitt on July 25, 2016, 7:38 p.m.

    Congratulations!

  • Regina Fraser on July 26, 2016, 1:40 a.m.

    Congrats on your first publication Mel! Wishing you continued blessings and success. Regi

  • Milica Paranosic on July 26, 2016, 8:32 a.m.

    looking forward to receiving my copy and reading it!

  • NICOLE BEATTY on July 26, 2016, 3:41 p.m.

    Congratulations Mell. I just placed my Pre Order. Can't wait to let the HEALING begin. ALL the Best.

  • Tamara Caesar on July 26, 2016, 3:58 p.m.

    I think this is a small step into the right direction for me...

  • Brenda Rivers on July 27, 2016, 12:56 a.m.

    Congratulations on your book launch!

  • Lourdes The on July 27, 2016, 3:49 p.m.

    Congratulation Mellany wishing you all the best on your 1st book

  • Carol Griffith on July 29, 2016, 11:44 p.m.

    Hi Mel, my order is in the mail

  • Carol Griffith on July 29, 2016, 11:45 p.m.

    Congrats to you, wishing you all the best

  • Aisha Oliver-Staley on Aug. 5, 2016, 10 p.m.

    Looking forward to reading it!

  • Shelley Alexander on Aug. 6, 2016, 5:41 p.m.

    Can't wait to read it! Proud of you!

  • Solanche Robert on Aug. 6, 2016, 8:55 p.m.

    I will be Dancing at The Crossroad!'

  • Joycelyn Francis on Aug. 8, 2016, 9:13 p.m.

    So happy for you, keep tearing down the status quo

  • Taryn Forbes on Aug. 9, 2016, 5:30 p.m.

    Finally ordered my copy yay!

  • Meschida Philip on Aug. 10, 2016, 12:23 a.m.

    This is so great, Mell! So glad I can be part of this journey with you.

  • Meschida Philip on Aug. 10, 2016, 12:25 a.m.

    Made my order. So glad to be part of this journey with you!

  • Kharim Ames on Aug. 12, 2016, 3:28 a.m.

    Looking forward to reading this Mellany.

    - Kharim

  • Jonelle Lewis on Aug. 12, 2016, 11:38 a.m.

    You ROCK!
    Love you.

  • Renarda Hamilton on Aug. 17, 2016, 6:10 p.m.

    Wonderful Congratulations!!

  • Karen Taylor on Aug. 18, 2016, 11:57 a.m.

    I can't wait to read your book! Wishing you the very best! Love you!😘

  • Loraine Frank-Philip on Aug. 20, 2016, 11:31 a.m.

    Congratulations Mellany!! Keep shining and God blessing to you on this journey.

  • Sheila Jones on Aug. 20, 2016, 12:20 p.m.

    So proud of you Mell. Keep up the good work!

  • N'koma Monsegue on Aug. 22, 2016, 11:26 p.m.

    Looking forward to reading...

  • Michelle Atkins on Aug. 24, 2016, 1:11 p.m.

    CONGRATS....this is awesome, love you mell....so proud of you!

  • Kesha Baptiste-Roberts on Aug. 24, 2016, 2:31 p.m.

    Congrats on your book! I ordered for my mom and myself.

  • Caryl Petersen on Aug. 24, 2016, 4:57 p.m.

    Mel I can't wait to get my copy!!!Thank u for the sneak peek chapter!!

  • Stacey Silvera on Aug. 25, 2016, 3:39 a.m.

    Looking forward to recounting your journey, and sharing this gift with another friend who is where you were and hoping that they she will be able to find peace in reading your story. Thanks for your courage Mel!

  • Marcus Jones on Oct. 8, 2016, 5:04 p.m.

    Thanks and looking forward to the signed copy! Your spirit and vibe is awesome!

  • Nick Ramsay on Oct. 29, 2016, 7:11 p.m.

    Can't wait to get my copy! Thanks Mell
    Nick Ramsay

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